10 Ways to Keep a Relationship Going Strong

Getting the love you want by practicing mindfulness and respect. Source: 10 Ways to Keep a Relationship Going Strong

The Truelove

“There is a faith in loving fiercely
the one who is rightfully yours,
especially if you have
waited years and especially
if part of you never believed
you could deserve this
loved and beckoning hand
held out to you this way.”

Source: The Truelove: Poet and Philosopher David Whyte on Reaching Beyond Our Limiting Beliefs About the Love We Deserve

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R.I.P. Love Languages

The five love languages are vague and broad and a bygone notion. Source: R.I.P. Love Languages

The Challenge of Closeness: Alain de Botton on Love, Vulnerability, and the Paradox of Avoidance

The psychological machinery of our commonest coping mechanism for the terror of hurt, rejection, and abandonment. Source: The Challenge of Closeness: Alain de Botton on Love, Vulnerability, and the Paradox of Avoidance

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The Double Flame: Octavio Paz on Love

“Love is a bet, a wild one, placed on freedom. Not my own; the freedom of the Other… A knot made of two intertwined freedoms.” Source: The Double Flame: Octavio Paz on Love

Taking the Sex and Romance Out of Valentine’s Day

It’s OK if Valentine’s Day is not all about love and sex. Source: Taking the Sex and Romance Out of Valentine’s Day

The Overlooked Importance of Attachment Style in Mate Choice

Understanding attachment’s evolutionary origins to make better dating decisions. Source: The Overlooked Importance of Attachment Style in Mate Choice

Lies (Pretty Much) Everyone Tells On Valentine’s Day

“The more we feed into the socially reinforced, overly-romantic messages about love as a promise to be together forever, only have romantic feelings for one other human, and guarantees about how you will feel, act, and think in the future, the more we perpetuate unrealistic expectations of romantic relationships.”

“A quick perusal of the cards at your local store displays the unrealistic, fantasy versions of romance perpetuated on this holiday with sentiments like:

  • You’re my one and only true love, forever.
  • You’re my everything.
  • You always take my breath away.
  • My heart is all yours, always.
  • You’re my forever love.
  • My heart belongs to you, now and always.
  • You complete me.

Truth be told, most of us love hearing these sweet sentiments from our current flame. They make us feel special, wanted, and adored.

But should we? None of these statements actually reflects what a person can honestly promise or say.

You can’t know the future. You can’t own another person or their heart. In fact, the only guarantee we have in life is that things will change over time.” Source: Lies (Pretty Much) Everyone Tells On Valentine’s Day

10 Reasons Marriage Has Grown Tougher Over the Past 10 Years

Modern love poses challenges other generations didn’t experience. Source: 10 Reasons Marriage Has Grown Tougher Over the Past 10 Years

Why “Penny Dating” Is So Manipulative and Hurtful

…and 4 key signs to watch for. Source: Why “Penny Dating” Is So Manipulative and Hurtful

Why Many Couples Are Happy Living Apart Together or Together Apart

“Sometimes I want us to decide to take different paths for the day.” Source: Why Many Couples Are Happy Living Apart Together or Together Apart

2 Words to Instantly Improve Your Intimate Relationship

Exploring the enduring rewards of kindness in loving relationships. Source: 2 Words to Instantly Improve Your Intimate Relationship

 

How to Spend Quality Time Together on a Date

A picnic in the park or a casual stroll with coffee or tea are two popular ways. Source: How to Spend Quality Time Together on a Date

10 Green Flags for Relationships

Use this guide to move toward what you want. Source: 10 Green Flags for Relationships

How Do You Rate on the 5 Most Popular Myths About Love?

New research lets you test yourself on 5 of the commonest romantic love myths. Source: How Do You Rate on the 5 Most Popular Myths About Love?

Embracing a Living Apart Together Relationship

In the modern landscape of relationships, the concept of “Living Apart Together” (LAT) has gained significant traction as an alternative to traditional cohabitation. This unconventional arrangement offers a unique balance of intimacy and independence, with a myriad of benefits that cater to the individual’s emotional and relational needs.

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Living Apart Together Is the Best Relationship Decision I’ve Made

Leah Rockwell writes “Every Monday, I wake up at 5:45 am and I drive, half-asleep, to a local pool for my morning laps, my every-other-day routine for more than 20 years. I swim in complete silence, the water blissfully making conversation impossible. I breathe deeply, sinking into my body’s rhythm, slowly awakening over the course of those 30 minutes.

Then I melt into a warm shower, followed by a cup of coffee in solitude. Before daybreak, I relish the peace of not answering any questions or coordinating who’s responsible for packing lunches or doing the day’s grocery run, surrendering to this daily self-reflection practice before transitioning into my workday. And I’m able to do this despite having two daughters, ages 15 and 12, plus a committed partner with three teenage boys of his own.

How? My partner and I don’t share a home, unwittingly joining the Living Apart Together (LAT) movement, and I can have these mornings when my kids are with their other parent.” Source: Living Apart Together Is the Best Relationship Decision I’ve Made

Living Apart Together

Exploring the modern day concept of Marriage and co-habitation versus the “Living apart together” concept. Is society divorcing its self from Traditional Values or are we undergoing an acceptance for something new? Source: https://houghtonmackay.com/lifestyle/living-alone-together/

Here’s Why Some Older People Are Single by Choice

Learn why more older adults – from middle-aged to senior citizens – are choosing to stay happily single. It’s a choice many happily make. Source: Here’s Why Some Older People Are Single by Choice

The greatest gift?

Daily writing prompt
What is the greatest gift someone could give you?

This Christmas I received one of the best gifts ever — but not in the way you might think. Let me explain…

When I opened the package, there was a ‘coupon’ for a performance of Mozart’s Requiem — one of my three favorite classical pieces ever! I was ‘over the moon’ ecstatic — the Requiem at the Chicago Symphony Orchestra? How would I ever wait until March?! Then we learned the performance was actually sold out. I don’t understand how that happened but what I do understand is the best gift of all — my beloved sees me and knows me and she picked the perfect gift: the gift of being seen and loved for who I am and to me that is the greatest gift of all

Don’t Let Love Take Over Your Life

The case for love-life balance. Source: Don’t Let Love Take Over Your Life

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