Turning off the ‘Tube’

For some, it may be stretching it a bit too far to just turn off the TV cold turkey. If that’s the case, here are some ideas of things we’ve done in our home. We have a rule that there is no T.V. during the school week.  If there is a show that they really want to see, they can Tivo it.  Of course, we make exceptions, especially if they have completed their homework, for special programs, like big football games, that they may want to watch live.  To enforce this, we just  use the television parental control to limit the time they can watch to the weekend.

I’m always asking my boys what kind of memories that want to have when they leave home. I ask ‘do you want to remember us gathered around the ‘idiot box’ [as my father used to call it]? What about you?

Daily Number: Boo!

Neighborhoods will be haunted by costumed ghosts and goblins this weekend, but many Americans say they have seen the real thing. Nearly one-in-five adults (18%) say they have seen or been in the presence of ghosts. Among Christians, the proportion is essentially identical (17%), a Pew Forum survey finds. Even more among the U.S. public (29%), including an identical proportion of Christians, say they have felt in touch with someone who has already died. The number of Americans who see dead people has doubled over the past decade. Just 9% said they had interacted with a ghost in 1996, compared with 18% today. The number saying they have felt in touch with someone who has died has also grown considerably, from 18% in 1996 to 29% today. Read more

This car has everything!

h/t Heather Blish…

Another beautiful morning in Algoma…

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The harbor's so beautiful sometimes that I just can't resist stopping by after I drop off the kids at school…

Finding God with Google

Rabbi Brad Hirschfield recently wrote…

“Like pretty much everything else, God can be found on Google. And this week, with the help of Google Street View, you don’t even have to search for images of the Divine to find you. This image, captured by the Street View feature of ubiquitous searcher (a fact about Google which may hint at the search engine itself is increasingly God-like, if not actually God) has been interpreted by thousands as a glimpse of God captured on camera. Of course others have suggested that it is more likely bird poop on the camera lens. Whatever it is, there is a lesson here in when and why we see/think we see God. It comes down to admitting that we all find the God or no-God for which we are looking. There is proof of either the existence or the non-existence of God. Their constant debating to the contrary, that is something upon which both deep believers and ardent atheists ought to agree.” Source: Finding God with Google – Windows & Doors

You can go to the source and read the rest of his post, but just in case, here’s his conclusion…

“Instead of each side engaging in a debate whose real purpose is to keep each side from asking any questions about its own views, by focusing on demolishing those of others, I would suggest a new approach to this debate. Let each side stop talking about proofs and dis-proofs and speak instead about the results of belief and disbelief in their own lives and our assessment of the impact of God in the world in which we live. For pretty much all of us, it is those experiences which govern our conclusion.”

Lovely weather in Algoma today…

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50+ mph winds, cold and rainy. Sigh. I guess winter is just around the corner now…

Can’t find your phone? There’s a website for that.

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How to rid your house of ghosts

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Probably Bad News: Pregnancy FAIL

Focus: A new book on simplicity in the age of distractions

Leo Babauta of Zenhabits is generously providing a free version of his new book ‘Focus’ online…

The free version is simple: it’s 27 chapters that you can download for free, without having to give an email address or do anything else. It’s uncopyrighted, and you can share it with as many people as you like.

Download free version here (a pdf download).

Grab it!

Promises, Promises

One vow has changed, because in the earliest English marriage services the bride’s vows included a promise to be:

“bonny and buxom in bed and at board.”

This wonderfully alliterative phrase comes from the Use of Sarum, the earliest English marriage service I have found, which was authorised by the Bishop of Salisbury in 1085. In this very early version some of the vows were still in Latin while others were in old English. The whole service is almost identical with our modern version except that the Latin has been translated and the line about bonny and buxom brides has been omitted.

Originally these words meant something rather different from now. “Bonny” is from the French ‘bon’, or ‘good’; “buxom” is from an old German word meaning ‘pliant’ or ‘obedient’; “board” is where you put food (on the ‘sideboard’) so this means mealtimes; and “bed” simply meant ‘night-time’. So “Be bonny and buxom in bed and at board” meant: “Behave properly and obediently through night and day.” The meanings of these words changed over the years and the church objected to talking about bonny and buxom brides in bed, so we have now lost this vow.

Watching the Tudors, Henry VIII and Catherine Parr used this phrase in their marriage vows. Odd, isn’t it?

Class Warfare

You’re Still The One

NPR Ends Juan Williams’ Contract After Muslim Remarks

NPR News has terminated the contract of longtime news analyst Juan Williams after remarks he made on the Fox News Channel about Muslims.

Williams appeared Monday on The O’Reilly Factor, and host Bill O’Reilly asked him to comment on the idea that the U.S. is facing a dilemma with Muslims.

O’Reilly has been looking for support for his own remarks on a recent episode of ABC’s The View in which he directly blamed Muslims for the Sept. 11, 2001, attacks. Co-hosts Joy Behar and Whoopi Goldberg walked off the set in the middle of his appearance.

Williams responded: “Look, Bill, I’m not a bigot. You know the kind of books I’ve written about the civil rights movement in this country. But when I get on the plane, I got to tell you, if I see people who are in Muslim garb and I think, you know, they are identifying themselves first and foremost as Muslims, I get worried. I get nervous.”

For this he was fired? Sheesh…

10 Ways to Push Your Spouse Away

1.  Computer Time

Shopping, Gaming, Chatting, Emailing, Working, Couponing, Downloading, Blogging, Reading, Researching, Networking—there are a ton of things to do on the computer! I don’t care what they say, for me it is a time sucker, not saver!

2. TV

It doesn’t even matter what’s on the screen. The addictive glow is enough to induce a trance and shut out the rest of the world.  If this is your preferred method of pushing your spouse away, then get a TV timer and set specific quantities of time that upon which you both agree.

3. Phone Conversations

We sure do like to talk! Family members, friends, doesn’t matter.  We may have just seen them, but we’ll still pick up the phone and engage in a conversation!  Sometimes your spouse will notice and make a comment like, “What could you possibly still have to talk about?” Ouch! It’s time to step away from the phone!

4. Hyper scheduling

Some people are natural social coordinators. We keep the parties, classes, trips, events, and practices scheduled to the tee! All of those plans can occasionally make life hectic. If you are not as socially minded, you look forward to enjoying some down time at home. It’s your haven. Schedule some time each day that will allow the family to unwind. Each week make sure that you’ve blocked some time for all of you to just hang out together at home. Resist the urge to invite anyone else over.

5. Quiet-less House

This one is a stark contrast to the hyper-scheduling spouse. Toddlers and young kids waking up in the middle of the night should be the exception, not the norm.  After several stress-filled hours at home (maybe right around dinnertime), stress starts to creep into your shoulders, and you can actually hear the wrinkles furrowing into your brow!  If your home is in a constant state of harried activity and noise, you and your spouse will suffer from attention-deficit-disorder! It is imperative to create a restful home for at least a portion of the day.

6. Obsessions

Be it a clean house, germ phobia, paranoia, hoarding, eating, or even exercising.  The rituals we obsess about will bump our spouses from their rightful spot as first on the priority list. Identify it, and seek professional help.

7.  Body language

You’re thinking it, your body’s showing it, and they’re getting the hint: It’s not gonna happen tonight, baby! Stop hunching your shoulders, put on something appealing, brush your teeth and smile because somebody loves you!  Don’t let the stress of the day rob you of intimacy with your spouse.

8. Shopping Frivolity

This one is not just about pushing your husband or wife away, financial discord is a marriage killer. If he’s a saver and you’re a spender, get some guidance on how to live and love on a budget. And keep your word. If you have a budget, stick to it. If you’re running up to the store for one quick thing, be back at the agreed upon time instead of wandering the mall or the home-improvement store in an effort to escape your life at home.

9. Making a List

Do you keep a constant running tab in your mind of your spouse’s mistakes or wrong choices? We know it’s hard to let them go. But eventually that list of wrongs will move quickly to a list of resentments, then to bitterness—which will lead you to a very unhappy life.  An unhappy life leads to an unhappy marriage, and an ugly divorce.  Incorporate forgiveness immediately.

10. Your kids

At almost the exact moment our perfect little bundle arrives, we’ve forgotten how they got there. Remember, they were born because two people fell in love. Your spouse comes first.

11. Yelling…

Christianity not to blame for anti-gay bullying

Bullies are, and always have been, a sad reality of life. They are also, courtesy of a handful of tragic news stories in recent months, major headline-generators right now. In the wake of the highly publicized suicides of some young gays outed or taunted by bullies, those who pick on people they perceive as “weird” or “weak” have rightfully come under fire. But so has the Christian faith, and there’s nothing right about that.

It has been suggested by some that Christianity itself is to blame for these tragedies – and that is its own separate tragedy. The train of thought goes like this: Churches and organizations like the one I lead, which believe Scripture places homosexual activity outside of God’s design for human sexuality, are responsible for the bullying of gay students and, by extension, their deaths.

As provocative as that narrative may be, and it certainly has ginned up quite a lot of controversy of late, it is not accurate. Not only is Christianity not to blame for attacks against gays and lesbians, when properly interpreted and practiced, it is the cure for and solution to the mistreatment and abuse of anyone, for any reason.

If there is a single golden thread woven through the Bible and the faith it informs, it is this: when it comes to human rights and how we treat each other, no person is superior or inferior to the next. Yes, sin exists; and God does not condone it. But he does embrace the sinner – and that means every one of us. Scripture makes it clear we’ve all fallen short of the glory of God (Romans 3:23), yet makes it just as clear (Romans 5:8) that “God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”

So, to violate the dignity of another person, in any form or fashion, is to contradict the very basis of Gospel-centered living. And to suggest that an orthodox understanding of Christianity encourages abuse against homosexuals is a sad misreading of the very tenets of the faith.

Unfortunately, professed non-believers are not the only ones prone to misunderstanding and misapplying those tenets. The truth is, some self-described Christians do not act in Christlike ways toward those who are different than they are. Some think God sets certain behaviors aside as “super sins”; homosexuality, they believe, is of a higher (or lower) order than adultery or covetousness or lying or gossip; put more generally, they save their harshest judgments for the sins they don’t struggle with themselves. That is not biblical Christianity in practice.

Those who earnestly seek to emulate Jesus understand it is a matter of applying both his word and his deeds to our lives; that’s why Christianity is often described as a “walk” – it requires two legs, truth and grace, to make any forward progress. That means, since we’ve all fallen short of God’s glory (his truth), we must regard each other as more than just the sum of our sinful behaviors (his grace).

In the end, it’s the graceless behavior of bullies – against homosexuals or anyone else – that should serve to remind both Christians and non-Christians why Jesus came to earth at all: It is his way, exclusively, that provides the power to transform hearts, minds and actions.

Hear, hear. Follow the ‘via’ link to read the rest of the article if you are so inclined…

Fourth Freedom Index for the 111th Congress

The New American’s semi-annual congressional scorecard, entitled “The Freedom Index,” rates all members of Congress based on their adherence to constitutional principles of limited government, fiscal responsibility, national sovereignty, and a traditional foreign policy of avoiding foreign entanglements.

Since every Congressman takes an oath to uphold the Constitution, every Congressman should earn a perfect score on a congressional scorecard based on the U.S. Constitution. But that is far from the case, as both the “Freedom Index” and the unconstitutional actions of the federal government indicate.

All four installments of “The Freedom Index” are available below in PDF format. Each rates every member of the U.S. House and Senate based on 10 key votes.

If you live in northeast Wisconsin, for example, you might be interested to know that Congressman Steve Kagen has a 15% rating. In a spirit of fairness, I will say however, that I finally found something I like about the congressman. At the grand opening of the Platinum Flight Center in Appleton last week I noticed he’s a fan of New Balance shoes, just like I am. But I digress. Follow the ‘via’ link to check out the pdfs issue by issue…

How to Encourage a Teenager to Help Clean the House

How to Assign Household Chores: Parenting Tips

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Do you struggle with this as much as we do? What has worked for you?

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Daily Number: Luxury to Necessity and Back Again

The economy’s recent downturn has forced many Americans to reconsider just how necessary certain everyday products are. In 2006, more Americans rated five items — car, clothes dryer, home air conditioning, microwave, home computer — a necessity than in any previous survey. But in the middle of a recession, far fewer say that they cannot live without these items. Cars have performed the best in maintaining their can’t-live-without status. Fully 86% say a car is a necessity today, just a five-point drop from 2006 when 91% said the same. The most recently popularized item, the home computer, also fared well. A high of 51% said a computer was a necessity in 2006, but 49% still said the same in the most recent survey. Other items did not hold up as well. An overwhelming 83% considered a clothes dryer a necessity in 2006; post-recession, just 59% said the same. Similarly, home air conditioning was needed by 70% in 2006, but just 55% in 2010. And while 68% couldn’t bear life without a microwave four years ago, today, a majority consider it a luxury (just 45% say necessity).

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