Thinks I find along the way
“All is well. You did not come here to fix a broken world. The world is not broken. You came here to live a wonderful life. And if you can learn to relax a little and let it all in, you will begin to see the universe present you with all that you have asked for.”
– Esther Abraham-Hicks, is a best-selling author and speaker.
Our nation is facing unprecedented rates of unemployment as well as job insecurity and dissatisfaction. Recent figures put the national jobless rate at close to 10%, not including those who left the workforce or those staying in unsatisfying jobs. In a culture that values the work role and external signs of status, wealth and achievement above all else. it is not surprising that rates of anxiety and mental disorders are increasing and that more prescriptions for anti-anxiety and anti-depressant medications are being written every day.
Follow the ‘via’ link above if you or someone you love is unemployed…
No marriage is perfect. We all have conflict from time to time. Resolving conflict can be one of the biggest challenges in marriage. When conflict goes unresolved, it causes tension and builds a wall between husband and wife. When attempts at addressing conflict are unproductive or harsh, it can lead to resentment, discouragement and even bigger problems than you faced originally.
So, after you’ve cooled down and taken a break, how can you address conflict successfully in your marriage? One way is to practice the R.E.S.T. method.
Follow the ‘via’ link if you want the R.E.S.T. of the idea…
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In his book, Learning to Live with the Love of Your Life… And Loving It!, Dr. Neil Clark Warren provides eight secrets to working through conflict with your spouse.
1. Marriage is a “We” Business
Dr. Warren says, “Any couple who gains a ‘we’ perspective eventually experiences great success in marriage.” Shift the focus of your marriage to a “we” mentality, especially in conflict.
2. Deal with the Issue as Quickly as Possible
Deal with conflict by getting problems out in the open and addressing them head-on. Don’t let issues fester below the surface.
3. Stick to the Subject
If you are in the middle of an argument with your spouse, stay focused on resolving that current conflict. Don’t throw old fights or problems into the discussion.
4. Don’t Intimidate
Some people become more concerned with “winning” a fight than working through the conflict. They may become mean, intimidating or threatening in order to stay in the fight. In Dr. Warren’s words, “Intimidation may result in victory for an individual, but I’ve never seen it produce victory for the marriage.”
5. No Name-Calling
Establish a rule with your spouse that there will be no name-calling during a fight. Name-calling will only lead to more hurt and emotional distance between the two of you.
6. Turn Up Your Listening Sensitivity
While it may be hard to actively listen to your spouse when your emotions are running high from an argument, you must take the time to try and see their point of view. This is key to the road to resolution. When your spouse feels listened to, they will be more willing to listen to what you have to say, as well.
7. Practice Give and Take
“What we must understand is that marriage is a partnership and therefore requires both give and take to be successful,” says Dr. Warren. Be willing to compromise on certain issues that are more important to your spouse. Choose your battles wisely.
8. Celebrate Every Victory
Recognize the victories when you and your spouse successfully work through a conflict together. Focus on the progress you have made as a couple and the new strengths that you have together as a result.
For more help on conflict resolution, check out iMOM’s 10 Ways to Fight Fair with Your Spouse.
My favorite Irish pub song as done by Dropkick Murphy’s…
“Don’t find fault. Find a remedy.”
– Henry Ford, was the founder of Ford Motors.
In Wisconsin, autumn brings the landscape to life along the Lake Michigan shoreline. The best times to see fall colors in Wisconsin is between mid-September to mid-October, The famous attractions are Cedarburg, Bayfield, Prairie du Chien, Lake Geneva and Door County, where golden colors blossom. Ephraim, in door county is the best area to see fall leaves changing to those golden colors of autumn.
So what good is it if you live within striking distance of one of the 10 best places in the country to view foliage and you don’t go? Ephraim, here we come!
Here’s just a sample from last year’s ride…
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us, it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
– Marianne Williamson, is a best-selling author and speaker.
Bright, shiny objects! 
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