“If we are to live together in peace, we must come to know each other better.” ~Lyndon Johnson.

A while back, I told a friend that I try to follow the old adage “Treat people how you wanted to be treated.” He responded that he tries to treat people how they want to be treated. This really got me thinking.

I’ve always tried to gauge people’s needs by relating to them—by seeing myself in them, and giving them what I would want if I were in their shoes.

It never occurred to me consider how I differ from them, and how their wants may differ, as well.

This friend of mine, he values connection and support, just like everyone else, but he’s not someone who likes to talk about his problems at length. In fact, he prefers to get things off his chest and then move on, instead of dwelling on things that bother him.

A mutual friend of ours enjoys dissecting a problem from every angle. If he treated her how he likes to be treated, he may try to help let go and move on quickly, as that’s how he does things.

But he doesn’t treat her that way. Instead, he simply listens until she’s done talking, because he understands that she appreciates that.

He understands that what works for him isn’t necessarily what works for everyone; and that there is no right or wrong when it comes to the support we want from other people.

What a beautiful way to be there for someone—to try to ascertain what they value in a friendship, and then provide it, without question or judgment.” Get more here: Tiny Wisdom: Treat People How They Want to Be Treated | Tiny Buddha.

“Life is the sum of all your choices.” ~Albert Camus.

Ever wondered what might have been?

Ever thought about where and who you’d be if only you’d done something differently, gone somewhere else, chosen something or someone else?

Probably so, if you’re like most.

But have you ever imagined where you might go and what you might still become, with the choices you yet have left?

My friends and I were hanging out not too long ago, before I moved away from them (totally escaping their awesome grasp) to start a new life of sorts in this surface-of-sun-like heat of Austin. (I’m not used to it yet, possibly because I’m convinced one of these days I’ll walk outside and spontaneously combust.)

Anyway, we were doing what we often do—making fun of the university we went to, when someone asked where else I could have gone. What other schools could I have chosen instead?

The question pretty much weirded me out right away.” Get more here: Why You Have 43 Choices More That Matter in Life (or Not) | Tiny Buddha.

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Did I lock the house? Cappuccino or green tea latte? Should I call my mom now or later? What shall I eat for dinner? Did I feed the cat? Do I look fat? I have a headache. And so your thoughts go on.

Did you know the average person has between 50,000-60,000 thoughts a day?

That’s a heck of a lot of thinking!

Being pushed and pulled by the elements whilst immersed in the constant ebb and flow of life can really take its toll on your mind and body.

Retreating

How does the idea of retreating into yourself everyday sound? Transcending the surface (where you are bobbing around) and sinking deep down into a place of peace, love, stillness and light.

Meet Tom Cronin…..

Sixteen years ago Tom hit a mental wall. Unable to continue in the rat race of the corporate world, Tom fell into chronic depression and what he terms “the darkest of days” as he became housebound by his own limitations.

After many months of becoming more disconnected to the world and his being, Tom decided to find a way to lift his depression and balance the overstimulation that life had thrown to him.  And find he did. The “Science of Stillness” was born.

Focusing on Your Core

Tom came to Malaysia with his business partner Nick, and gave a special presentation on “The Stillness Effect” which we would like to share with you.

The video highlights stimulants in our life that cause our mind and body to fall out of sync, and introduces the effects of stillness on this imbalance.

Give yourself 25 minutes to find out how a little bit of stillness can go a long way for you.

To find out more about Tom, Nick and how you can benefit from the Stillness Effect check out the Science of Stillness.” via Talks@Mindvalley – The Stillness Effect.

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