Category: Just in case

Why Drinking When You’re Stressed is Risky Business

Psychology Today shares:

Here’s something to keep in mind as the holidays unfold: if you drink alcohol when you’re stressed, you may be flipping a brain switch that makes heavier drinking all the more likely. That’s the finding of a new animal study on the neural effects of drinking, and stressed humans should take note of the results. A group of rats were put under heavy stress for an hour, and 15 hours later their blood was tested to find out how much of a sugar-water and ethanol solution they’d been drinking (rodent version of a stiff cocktail served at an open bar). The researchers found that the stressed rats drank significantly more of the solution than an unstressed control group. And here’s the really interesting part: the booze slurping went on for weeks after the original exposure to stress.

Source: Why Drinking When You’re Stressed is Risky Business | Psychology Today

Coping with the Pain of Loneliness After a Breakup

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Becky Potter writes:

“Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than hurt yourself trying to put it back together.” ~Unknown

I am at a phase in my life right now where I’m struggling with loneliness.

It means that most of the time, I feel a deep sense of disconnection from the world around me and the people I share it with.

The mere fact that I am writing this in the small hours of the morning, deafened by the ear-splitting silence of an empty flat, unable to sleep, simply emphasizes this point to me even harder.

The empty flat in question is mine. And the situation in which I find myself was not part of the plan that I had envisioned for my life at this moment in time.

Everything that was once familiar has now changed.

Go to the source for more: Coping with the Pain of Loneliness After a Breakup

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Source: Wasted Rita via this isn’t happiness

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Pain

In the face of every type of pain, we tend to think that life will never be the same, but guess what, it was never going to be the same anyway. The only thing more relentless than pain is change. It certainly can seem like the relentless pain of life is unbearable, but you are never more alive than when you are enraptured by pain. Pain is a horribly wonderful gift. We are never taught more deeply and more truthfully than by pain. We are all aching. Young and old — we all ache so much. Our hearts and bodies feel every shock. Pain is as expansive as life itself. Pain grows with us and in us as a cultivation of life’s unfolding. Your pain is reminding you that the gift of life is tender and precious. Suffering cuts to the quick of aliveness. Pain realigns us with the present moment and brings us into a mindful awareness of the labored expansion of life’s gift called — now. Whether it be physical or emotional, pain is usually a messenger trying to help us. Pain is a breach in the walls of decline and stagnation. Pain is the ultimate proof of life. We are all aching for something, even if only for some relief and a little peace. But remember when you are aching to feel alive, that you are aching only because you are alive! Lifetimes are lost in unnoticed moments, but pain forces us to notice. Because of pain you feel more and so you live more. Every beautiful thing in the world is rooted in some kind of pain. Pain is the clarion of aliveness trumpeting that you are living in the marvelous tender cause of life! Your burdens and pains will only be lightened by living ever so fully. If you want relief from pain just strive to touch more of every part of life. Live so fully and so brilliantly that your pain diminishes in your aliveness. Day by day, as you live more, you will become greater than your pain. May you receive the wisdom of your wounds and may you live your life even larger than your pain.

http://simplereminders.org/post/154161896907/in-the-face-of-every-type-of-pain-we-tend-to

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Recreate Your Life Story

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What All Great Relationships Have in Common

Rhoda Jordan writes:

My husband and I have been married for almost ten years.
And before those ten years, we were college sweethearts and had been dating for over six.
When you know someone for that long, someone whom you are deeply and madly in love with, something funny happens:
Your collective thoughts, actions, and words become so tightly intertwined that you walk around believing you are one person.
As a result, you feel ten times taller. Like you can do anything. You feel as though you’ve discovered the purpose for breathing on this planet.
But something else happens, too.
When you really know someone, intimately and with all the deepest parts of yourself, you also hit bumps in the road.

Get more here: http://tinybuddha.com/blog/what-all-great-relationships-have-in-common/

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Guardians of the Galaxy Vol. 2 Trailer

I’m looking forward to this one!

Marvel Studios has just released the new Guardians of the Galaxy Vol. 2 trailer. With just five months to go before the Guardians of the Galaxy are back on the big screen, Walt Disney Pictures and Marvel Studios have just released a new Guardians of the Galaxy Vol. 2 trailer. Check it out in the player below!

Source: Guardians of the Galaxy Vol. 2 Trailer – ComingSoon.net

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Walking. Cross-Costco.

Lol. One of my favorite bloggers writes about the wonders of Costco of all things! :-)

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We’re on a Costco run.

I’m generally not invited on Costco runs due to some Priors, some unfortunate displays of lack of self-control, some poor judgment, followed by regrets: “It won’t happen again.”

But rations were way down, there was some heavy mule work required, and so, here I am, with my adult chaperone.

The front of the store is stacked from floor to ceiling with 65″ HDTVs, deeply discounted laptops and seasonal deals on cell phones. Gadget man’s entire body is trembling, but is pulled forward with a scolding: “You don’t need any more. Come on!”

It’s 10:30 am and I’m working here on an empty stomach. The nose catches a whiff of chocolate and separately, of cheese. Sampling Stations! 

“I’ll catch up with you later.” I can feel the stink eye on my back, but first things first. I turn and head across the store, the stimulated nostrils acting as…

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How to End Your Stress and Live a Life of Peace and Balance

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This resonates with me: Loosen up on expectations and attachments.

When we expect something great to happen, we begin to set ourselves up for the roller coaster. We’ll be disappointed if it doesn’t happen, or happy if it does. Pair that with being emotionally attached to the outcome and wham—there’s an even bigger charge. You just stepped onto life’s roller coaster.

If you realize every situation offers growth and opportunity, you can more easily live without expectations. You can feel confident being open to whatever happens, knowing that you can appreciate good events and accept the challenge of things you feel are negative.

Some of us have a general fear that bad things might be just around the corner. Try to detach yourself from fear of what might happen and experience life as it unfolds.

Go to the source for more: How to End Your Stress and Live a Life of Peace and Balance

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12 things to always remember

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Embracing the Cs and More

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Fran Simone writes this on her blog:

Approximately 22 million Americans struggle daily with addition to drugs and alcohol. Another 100 million family members and friends share their pain. James Graham writes that there are two great human resources on alcoholism: recovering alcoholics who have had front line experience and combat veterans who have been exposed to the active drinking of a loved one for long periods of time.  I am combat veteran whose husband lost his battle with alcoholism.

On Christmas Day, 1996, my husband, Terry, committed suicide. He was only forty-seven years old. Although he admitted he was an alcoholic, he hated the label with its image of street drunks clutching pints of rotgut liquor beside dumpsters in dark alleys. My husband was more than a lush, a drunk, a barfly. He was a gifted lawyer, loving son, proud step-dad, loyal friend, supportive husband, and rabid Dallas Cowboy fan who eventually succumbed to this cunning disease. He was never mean, nasty, or violent. When drunk, he simply wasn’t there. He was immobile, like a corpse. Once I asked, “Why do you drink when it causes such heartache?” “Oblivion,” he responded. “I like the oblivion.”

Terry inhabited a parallel universe: his hidden self and his public self. Like light which consists of wave and particle, my husband was both things at once—a baffling paradox. Shortly after he died, I composed a poem to “my husband of a thousand joys and sorrows.” For every sad episode associated with alcohol, there was an equally joyful time when Terry was sober. We careened between the highs and lows of our roller coaster  marriage. Looking back, I recognize my part in this risky journey. I thrived on the melodrama. That may have been why I didn’t embrace my own recovery.

Years passed. Terry progressed from the middle to the late stage of the disease. At one point, he attended a one month residential treatment program. At a weekend event for family and friends I was first introduced to the twelve-step philosophy. It made sense but I didn’t follow through when I returned home. I believed that I could fix my husband. Shortly after treatment Terry relapsed. For the remaining years we resumed our life of managing the disease until his tragic death.

Go to the source for more: Embracing the Cs and More | Psychology Today

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Stephen Colbert learns to pronounce Irish names

Irish names are crazy, let’s all just agree. In this video, Stephen Colbert learns how to pronounce some of the more difficult names.

Source: Stephen Colbert learns to pronounce Irish names – Holy Kaw!

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Tara Brach speaks on Trusting the Gold

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The one minivan we’d gladly drive

Ummm, cool?

If there’s one thing modern minivans lack, it’s the cool factor, but who wouldn’t love to cruise through the school pickup line in the original? The Stout Scarab never took off when it was released in 1936 because it was too far from the norm. William Stout, its creator, started off in airplane design, which explains the unique look. What do you say? Has the time come for a comeback?

Source: The one minivan we’d gladly drive – Holy Kaw!

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Why Consult a Clinical Psychologist?

Stephen A. DiamondDr. Steve Diamond writes:

Over the past eight years Psychology Today has provided me with the rare privilege of publishing my blog “Evil Deeds” here at this site, an opportunity for which I feel fortunate and thankful. During this period, I (like many other PT bloggers) have received literally thousands of comments and questions from you, our faithful readers, in response to my various postings. I have always found your welcome comments, critiques and questions to be intelligent, inquisitive, thoughtful, challenging, perceptive, and sometimes, deeply personal, and truly enjoy responding to them to the best of my ability. In certain ways, these more personal comments in particular–with their detailed descriptions of various symptoms, problematic behaviors or relationships–and my own responses, have always struck me as being somewhat akin to what we might call a “mini-consultation” : a succinct professional exchange between psychologist and suffering, frustrated, confused or simply curious reader. Often, these same readers would then respond to my responses or to each other’s, entering into a spirited to and fro discussion or debate, evoking additional animated and often self-disclosing and supportive comments from more readers, not too unlike what happens in group therapy. Or in a psychology classroom or online course. These dynamic interactions between professionals and the public and between the readers, are part of what makes the PT site so unique, relevant, informative, valuable and vital in my view.

Go to the source for more: Why Consult a Clinical Psychologist? | Psychology Today

Here are the articles in the series:

Why Consult a Clinical Psychologist?

Why Consult a Clinical Psychologist? (Part 2)

Why Consult a Clinical Psychologist? Part 3

Why Consult a Clinical Psychologist? Part 4

 

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Trevor Noah finally figures out how to defeat Trump’s endless Lies

Waylon Lewis of Elephant Journal shared this bit from Trevor Noah which I also happened to see the other night…

Too little, too late. And yet… the party (wherein Trump and his cronies kill healthcare, undo the Iran nuclear deescalation deal, help Climate Change hasten, delegitimize the press, and turn equal rights back in time… is just getting started. And so this is useful. Pics or it didn’t happen:

Source: Trevor Noah finally figures out how to defeat Trump’s endless Lies. | elephant journal

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