We do not heal the past by dwelling there…

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Tiny Buddha – Google+

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“Sometimes the wrong choices bring us to the right places.” — Unknown Author

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Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at this moment. — Eckhart Tolle

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When the storm rips you to pieces, you get to decide how to put yourself back together again. — Bryant McGill

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I am in the right place at the right time, doing the right thing. — Louise Hay

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Do you feel as though you are trapped with someone who suffers with Borderline Personality Disorder? What I mean by “trapped” is that the other person claims they don’t have a problem and that in fact YOU are the problem and they demand certain things from you.

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Remove Toxic People From Your Life: 10 inspiring quotes by best selling author and designer Karen Salmansohn, founder of The Never Again Program

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Some practical thoughts for men on handling emotions.

Stereotypically, men have only a few ways we deal with negative emotions:

• We get drunk.
• We punch each other.
• We “man up,” stuffing our feelings down until we die of heart disease.

I don’t think we socialize men well to handle strong emotions well. We still haven’t quite emerged from the “boys don’t cry” era. I spoke to a friend recently who sent her daughter than her son through the same preschool. The way they treated her son when he cried was vastly different than the way they treated her daughter.

How to Get Positive Feedback for your Presentation http://buff.ly/2nLq71FThere’s still something shameful and “unmanly” about having strong emotions. Men aren’t allowed to be sad. This is a cultural effect. For example, we know that around 50% of adults who experience symptoms of depression will not seek help or talk to a doctor about it. However, 90% of African-American males who experience depression will never get mental health help.

And while women are twice as likely to suffer from symptoms of depression, men (depending on age) are about three times as likely to commit suicide. The cultural stigma around mental and emotional health is killing males.

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I heard this idea in a podcast featuring Richard Rohr the other day. Similar to the Buddhist ‘middle way’ and Alexander’s ‘golden mean’…

In medio stat virtus : Virtue stands in the middle.

Virtue is in the moderate, not the extreme position. – Horace

Voltaire said : The better is the enemy of the good.

Variant translations:
The perfect is the enemy of the good.
The best is the enemy of the good.

In Nicomachean Ethics, Aristotle defined a virtue as a balance point between a deficiency and an excess of a trait. The point of greatest virtue lies not in the exact middle, but at a golden mean sometimes closer to one extreme than the other.

For example:

Generosity lies in between miserliness and extravagance.

Courage lies in between cowardice and foolhardiness.

Confidence lies in between self-deprecation and vanity.

Virtue, by definition, is a characteristic that promotes individual and collective well being. A vice, on the other hand, does not promote well being. What is surprising to me is that a virtue stands between two vices.

Now, this is something to think about. The present day paradigm is being the best. We all are told that we have to be the best at what we do. And we even strive for it.

We give up things just to be the best in what we do. We encourage children to be first in class. In fact our lives are so competitive that we call it a rat race. We drive ourselves hard and get burnt out.

No wonder this puts things out of perspective. We feel miserable when we cant be the best. We don’t forgive our own mistakes.

Pushing to extreme cant be a balanced way of life, even if the extreme is perfection. Being the best may be good for business, but it may not be good for the spirit.

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• Patty Golden 064544 on 20130127 Permalink

  Thank you. Your lovely words arrived at just the right time.

• Sara 054503 on 20160113 Permalink

  I searched my house for a sentimental paper (a dear friend had written the Latin down for me and I was unsure of the “virtu” vs. “virtus” spelling. thus the paper search). Unable to find it, I used my phone to do a phrase search. Your site was illuminating. Such a deeper feeding from reflecting on your teaching.

  And I ended up realizing that if I had found my original little slip of paper, I never would have encountered your site… And I would have not added any new reflections upon this very familiar (and treasured) phrase.

 

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