What ACEs do you have? There are 10 types of childhood trauma measured in the CDC-Kaiser Permanente Adverse Childhood Experiences Study. The number of ACEs and offsetting PCEs play a huge role in your childhood growth and development and could give you insight into addictive behaviors. Go to the source: What ACEs/PCEs do you have?
Gabor Mate explains the significance of childhood trauma here:
A long obedience in the same direction. Sound familiar? Famous atheist Friedrich Nietzsche said this in the early 20th Century book entitled Beyond Good and Evil. Source: A Long Obedience in the Same Direction
The one book that had the biggest impact on my year last year was The ONE Thing. Funny thing is that the book had been on my shelf for at least three years and I never read it. As the woman said ‘when the student is ready the teacher appears’…
The book resonated with me — I had already been thinking along those lines most of my life — and it reorganized my thinking in ways that had a big impact, especially at work!
One of the most important concepts in the book is this: a domino can knock over a domino 1.5x its size…
Resolve to read this book and apply its lessons this year!
Of all the opinions I’ve heard in the past week, I find this one the most useful in understanding why I was so disturbed by what I saw.
Blow said “I saw an expression of toxic masculinity how men too often… profess to protect the vulnerable with violence when in fact they’re animated by their own fragility”. To this I simply say ‘yes’.
Leo Babauta says “something I’ve noticed is that we spend a lot of our lives wrapping our identity in our bodies. If our body is something we’re proud of, we feel really good about ourselves … but much more often, it’s a sense that something is wrong with us because our bodies don’t hit some ideal.” Go to the Source: The Body as a Vessel for Living – zen habits
Gary Keller, author of ‘The ONE Thing’ says “Success is actually a short race—a sprint fueled by discipline just long enough for habit to kick in and take over. When you discipline yourself, you’re essentially training yourself to act in a specific way. Stay with this long enough and it becomes routine—in other words, a habit.’ I know this is true for me because I’ve seen it happen in my life over an over again. Now, there’s an app that can help you form the habits you need to succeed: Want to Build a New Habit? Do Them With Friends With HabitShare
btw, if you haven’t read The ONE Thing, I highly recommend it…
J. Kim Penberthy writes “A friend of mine – we will call him “Jay” – was working for IBM in New York City in the early ‘90s. He was a computer programmer and made a good salary. Occasionally, competitors and startups approached Jay to join their companies. He had an offer from an interesting but small organization in Seattle, but the salary was paltry and most of the offer package was in company shares. After consulting with friends and his parents, Jay declined the offer and stayed with IBM. He has regretted it ever since. That small company was Microsoft.” Source: Shoulda, Woulda, Coulda: How to Better Manage Feelings of Regret
IQ hasn’t been found to be a good predictor of success in life or in business. In fact higher IQ tends to be counter-intuitive to achieving such success. A better predictor of success is Emotional Intelligence or EQ (one’s emotional quotient). Although under-recognized, it plays a pervasive role in our everyday interactive life.
As social animals, humans’ emotions significantly impact our relationships, the very substance of our society. On an individual level, the ability to recognize our own emotions, to distinguish and control them, and to recognize and empathize with the emotions of others are the cornerstones of emotional intelligence. Individuals vary considerably in their abilities on these rather distinct measures, typically being stronger in one or two than in the others.
Identifying opportunities for improvement in emotional intelligence opens a pathway to improved relationships and greater success. Education to sharpen the skills involved in emotional intelligence via books, videos, and life coaching, as well as interpersonal practice offers promise for growth to every person who wants to increase their EQ and their success in business and personal relationships.
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