How Oxytocin Affects Our Relationships

Oxytocin pulls the strings of social interactions. Source: How Oxytocin Affects Our Relationships

Why Are Americans Not a Very Happy Group of People?

The answer may reside in our very way of life. Source: Why Are Americans Not a Very Happy Group of People?

How I climbed a 3,000-foot vertical cliff — without ropes

Alex Honnold talks about his epic assault on El Capitan and climbing in general…


The movie is available on Disney+

Do You Think People Are Doing The BEST They Can?

There are two ways to live; thinking people are doing the best they can and thinking they are not. One gives peace — the other not so much. Watch best-selling author Brene Brown explain…

People who had an unhappy childhood…

Growing up with a tough childhood can feel like trying to swim in murky waters without a life jacket. It leaves scars that run deep, often hidden beneath layers of silence and toughness.

But even though we try to act like everything’s normal, those old wounds have a way of popping up in our adult lives, shaping the way we behave without us even realizing it.

In our journey here, we’re going to uncover eight behaviors that often show up in folks who’ve been through the wringer as kids. These quirks might seem subtle, but they speak volumes about the struggles we’ve faced.

So, come along as we dive into the messy, tangled world of the human mind and shine a light on the lasting effects of silent suffering.”

Go to the source for more: People who had an unhappy childhood but never open up about it usually display these specific behaviors

Another Palandri post worth pondering…

I encourage you to follow his blog…

Everything You Need To Know About Gear Ratios

Choosing Cassettes, Chainrings & Shifters Explained…

Understanding the 11:34 Gear Ratio and Its Importance

When it comes to cycling, understanding gear ratios is crucial for maximizing performance and efficiency. One commonly encountered gear ratio is the 11:34, which refers to the relationship between the number of teeth on the front and rear gears. In this case, the front gear has 11 teeth, while the rear gear has 34.

Continue reading “Everything You Need To Know About Gear Ratios”

The Case for Marrying an Older Man

A woman’s life is all work and little rest. An age gap relationship can help. Source: The Case for Marrying an Older Man

The Rumi poem we should all read

Elyane Youssef writes “the poem is called “A Great Wagon,” and the middle verse—my favorite—is below:

Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing,
there is a field. I’ll meet you there
.
When the soul lies down in that grass,
the world is too full to talk about.
Ideas, language, even the phrase “each other”
doesn’t make any sense.
The breeze at dawn has secrets to tell you.
Don’t go back to sleep.
You must ask for what you really want.
Don’t go back to sleep.
People are going back and forth across the doorsill
where the two worlds touch.
The door is round and open.
Don’t go back to sleep.”

This verse highlights three pivotal ideas: the realization of the spiritual realm, and the exploration of non-judgment and oneness.

Some people underestimate spirituality or see it as a trend, but as Pierre Teilhard de Chardin said: “We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.”

Rumi explored that truth in his poems. We don’t just live in the spiritual realm, but we are the spiritual realm. To see beyond our physical bodies and realize our true essence has been our purpose since the beginning of time. Rumi wrote about it eight centuries before the extensive spread of spirituality.”: The Rumi Poem we should all Read.

Luca Stricagnoli is the most amazing guitar player you haven’t heard yet

I heard him for the first time at the 24th annual International Guitar Night. Amazing! And funny too…

He’s on Spotify…

Embrace Solitude—for Your Health

You will gain self-reflection, calm, and connectedness with some alone time. Source: Embrace Solitude—for Your Health

8 lessons 95 percent of people learn too late in life, according to psychologists

“It’s one of the most universal and unavoidable aspects of being human:

We all make mistakes, we all have regrets, and we all learn lessons the hard way.

You’ve been there, haven’t you? You’ve made decisions that seemed perfect at the time, only to look back and wish you could do things differently.

Sometimes, it’s not even about huge, life-altering mistakes.

You just somehow realize, years down the line, that there were certain truths about life you wish you had grasped earlier.

Here’s a peek into some of those lessons that a staggering 95 percent of people learn too late in life, according to psychologists.” Go to the source: 8 lessons 95 percent of people learn too late in life, according to psychologists

Use Present-Moment Focus to Overcome Anxious Thinking

If anxious thoughts haunt you, getting present shifts you toward happiness. Source: Use Present-Moment Focus to Overcome Anxious Thinking

Fine line

5 Romantic Ideas That May Do More Harm Than Good

My partner suggested we not celebrate Valentine’s Day this year, at least not in a traditional way and I agreed if only because our anniversary 11 days later is much more meaningful to me. Her very name means wisdom and I’m beginning to see why her suggestion made so much sense…

Amy Morin writes “There’s an ironic twist to traditional Valentine’s Day activities—they involve unhealthy relationship habits. Or, at the very least, they romanticize someone else’s unhealthy habits and give us an unrealistic idea of what true love looks like.

As I share in my book, 13 Things Mentally Strong Couples Don’t Do, it only takes one or two counterproductive relationship habits to weaken your bond. And while none of these traditional Valentine’s Day activities are likely to directly lead to divorce court, you might want to think twice about engaging in them this year. These Valentine’s Day activities might backfire and do more harm than good.”

She suggests not listening to ‘romantic music’ which I found interesting. Why? “Love” has remained the most popular word in song lyrics for more than five decades. But over that time, the dysfunctional lyrics have increased—especially when it comes to glamorizing unhealthy romantic behavior.

Eighty-six percent of modern songs contain lyrics that promote unhealthy and insecure romantic attachment. So think twice about that romantic song you’re tempted to turn on—there’s a good chance it normalizes jealousy, objectifies partners, and glorifies unhealthy behavior. That’s probably not the vibe you’re going for on Valentine’s Day.” Go to the source to read about the other 4 ideas: 5 Romantic Ideas That May Do More Harm Than Good

We Need to Stop Blaming Our Parents for Our Problems

Compassion with boundaries is more effective than blame. Source: We Need to Stop Blaming Our Parents for Our Problems

The Truelove

“There is a faith in loving fiercely
the one who is rightfully yours,
especially if you have
waited years and especially
if part of you never believed
you could deserve this
loved and beckoning hand
held out to you this way.”

Source: The Truelove: Poet and Philosopher David Whyte on Reaching Beyond Our Limiting Beliefs About the Love We Deserve

Continue reading “The Truelove”

Stories Matter

Saint Richard Rohr writes “When we believe in a deep way that life is good, God is good, and humanity is good, we do exciting and imaginative things because we are confident that we are part of a storyline that is going somewhere good. As Christians, we have the opportunity to live the story given to us at the very beginning (Genesis 1), that creation is “good,” even “very good,” and that it is our vocation to nurture and grow such goodness wherever we can.” Source: Stories Matter — Center for Action and Contemplation

#Loneliness is not a personal failing

The U.S. Surgeon General has issued a public health advisory about the dangers of loneliness, saying it impacts half of all American adults. Source: “Loneliness is not a personal failing”: Dartmouth Health psychologist offers advice for forging connection, feeling better

The Benefits of Dating an Older Man

Dating an older man can offer a unique and fulfilling experience for many individuals. While age alone does not determine compatibility, there are several potential benefits to consider when dating an older man.

Continue reading “The Benefits of Dating an Older Man”

Maine libraries unite in Big Conversations to combat winter loneliness

The Scarborough Public Library is one of several Maine libraries collaborating to present “Big Conversations in 10 Short Minutes.”  The program, designed to combat winter loneliness and social isolation, was launched Jan. 18, with librarians from Curtis Memorial, Prince Memorial, Scarborough Public, and Windham Public libraries joining forces. The program initiated by Andy Ryer, Community Engagement manager of Thomas Memorial Library, will extend through March.: Maine libraries unite in Big Conversations to combat winter loneliness

Start a Blog at WordPress.com.

Up ↑