Happy birthday, Hermann Hesse

Or should I say “Alles Gute zum Geburtstag”? Either way you would most likely scoff. You’re always on the list whenever someone asks who are the 3 people you’d like to have dinner with but I’m afraid that somehow you wouldn’t like me because I’m a syncophant or some such thing. In any case, your birthday seems to be a great time to thank the Universe for you and your body of work. I’m sorry I didn’t have the courage to finish my doctorate and dedicate a lifetime to analyzing your work! (btw, you can find every post I’ve ever written about Hesse here.)

Making marriage work

Here’s the science behind happy relationships! Dr. Gottman outlines the findings, tools and techniques that have helped thousands of couples from around the world build a “Sound Relationship House.”

I highly recommend relationship content from The Gottman Institute as being very insightful and practical. I also recommend this book for someone looking for a quick overview of their content…

Steve Jobs on death…

“One sunny afternoon, when he wasn’t feeling well, Jobs sat in the garden behind his house and reflected on death. He talked about his experiences in India almost four decades earlier, his study of Buddhism, and his views on reincarnation and spiritual transcendence. “I’m about fifty-fifty on believing in God,” he said. “For most of my life, I’ve felt that there must be more to our existence than meets the eye.” He admitted that, as he faced death, he might be overestimating the odds out of a desire to believe in an afterlife. “I like to think that something survives after you die,” he said. “It’s strange to think that you accumulate all this experience, and maybe a little wisdom, and it just goes away. So I really want to believe that something survives, that maybe your consciousness endures.” He fell silent for a very long time. “But on the other hand, perhaps it’s like an on-off switch,” he said. “Click! And you’re gone.” Then he paused again and smiled slightly. “Maybe that’s why I never liked to put on-off switches on Apple devices.””

Isaacson, Walter. Steve Jobs (pp. 570-572). Simon & Schuster. Kindle Edition.

Recommended reading…

Friends Good Will

Friends Good Will is a replica of a top sail merchant sloop that plied the waters of the Great Lakes in the early 19th century. She is the Museum’s flagship and sails from her home port of South Haven daily in the height of summer. Staff and volunteer crew, dressed in period clothes, offer passengers a glimpse into the life and operations of a Great Lakes sailor. Passengers may even have the opportunity to assist the crew as they set off on a traditional tall ship adventure on Lake Michigan.

Friends Good Will offers historical sails, pirate chaser sails, sunset sails, and even acts as a classroom for school groups to learn about early Michigan history and the Great Lakes. Occasionally, she will voyage to other ports for festivals and events. She makes an annual trip to Holland, Michigan during Tulip Time to offer dockside tours above and below decks to visitors: Friends Good Will

Here are some pictures from my ‘birthday cruise’…

Brené on Strong Backs, Soft Fronts, and Wild Hearts

In this solo episode recorded on Election Day 2020, I talk directly to our wholehearted community about the practice that helps me when I’m feeling fearful, worried, or wobbly, and why this work is the foundation for true belonging: Brené on Strong Backs, Soft Fronts, and Wild Hearts

Rabbit rabbit rabbit

“Rabbit rabbit rabbit” is a superstition found in Britain and North America wherein a person says or repeats the words “rabbit“, “rabbits” and/or “white rabbits” aloud upon waking on the first day of a month, to ensure good luck for the rest of it. The exact origin of the superstition is unknown, though it was recorded in Notes and Queries as being said by children in 1909:[1]

My two daughters are in the habit of saying “Rabbits!” on the first day of each month. The word must be spoken aloud and be the first word said in the month. It brings luck for that month. Other children, I find, use the same formula.

In response to this note another contributor said that his daughter believed that the outcome would be a present, and that the word must be spoken up the chimney to be most effective; another pointed out that the word rabbit was often used in expletives, and suggested that the superstition may be a survival of the ancient belief in swearing as a means of avoiding evil.[2] People continue to express curiosity about the origins of this superstition[3] and draw upon it for inspiration in making calendars[4] suggestive of the Labors of the Months, thus linking the rabbit rabbit superstition to seasonal fertility: Rabbit rabbit rabbit – Wikipedia

Facing the Fear of Death

Many people fear their inevitable death. Here are 7 tips to help you live more and worry less about your mortality. Source: Facing the Fear of Death

Viktor Frankl’s Perspective on Stimulus Pause Response

Viktor Frankl, an Austrian neurologist and psychiatrist, is renowned for his development of logotherapy and his experiences as a Holocaust survivor. Frankl’s perspective on stimulus pause response, a concept central to his existential psychology, offers valuable insights into human behavior and mental well-being.

According to Frankl, stimulus pause response refers to the critical moment between a stimulus and our response to it. In this brief but crucial pause, individuals have the power to choose their response, thereby exerting autonomy and shaping their attitudes and actions. Frankl stresses that while external factors may influence us, we ultimately possess the freedom to determine our internal reactions.

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How to Overcome Rejection

It’s important to take your time to deal with rejection and cultivate practices conducive to your healing and well-being. It won’t be easy, but it will be worth it. Source: How to Overcome Rejection

 

Forgiveness Is Giving Up All Hope of a Better Past

Source: Forgiveness Is Giving Up All Hope of a Better Past – Quote Investigator®

7 Questions That Only Secure Couples Can Handle

These questions will break you out of your romantic comfort zone—for the better. Source: 7 Questions That Only Secure Couples Can Handle

Redefining retirement

I think this post from Raffaello Palandri is worth resharing in hopes that more people might find it…

Continually expecting

Our continual mistake is that we do not concentrate upon the present day, the actual hour, of our life; we live in the past or the future; We are …

Continually expecting

Google just updated its algorithm. The Internet will never be the same.

Over the last two years, a series of updates to Google Search amount to a dramatic upheaval to the Internet’s most powerful tool, complete with an unprecedented AI feature. Source: Google just updated its algorithm. The Internet will never be the same

Building Trust in Yourself

I find that almost all problems are a breakdown in trusting ourselves. If we could trust ourselves fully, so many things become effortless. Source: Building Trust in Yourself – zen habits

 

Lou Holtz on maintaining self-motivation…

Go to the source to watch the video…

Connection is why we’re here

“Connection is why we’re here. We are hardwired to connect with others, it’s what gives purpose and meaning to our lives, and without it there is suffering.” ― Brené Brown

Source: Quote by Brené Brown: “Connection is why we’re here. We are hardwired …”

 

Lower Your Expectations

Disappointment got you down? Try lowering your expectations. Turns out, there’s a science to managing expectations. Source: Lower Your Expectations

When Love Isn’t Good Enough

Partners of perfectionists struggle with proving how much they love them. This post addresses how to manage feeling helpless when the proof provided isn’t enough. Source: When Love Isn’t Good Enough

 

4 Practices to Strengthen Your Mental Health

Simple strategies to promote mental wellness that you can start today. Source: 4 Practices to Strengthen Your Mental Health

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