Not The, but A Truth About Anger

As I get older and hopefully more emotionally mature, things like ‘THE truth trigger me’. As Khalil Gibran said ‘do not say I have found the truth, instead say I have found A truth’ — that’s the reason for the change in the title. Now, enjoy the article…

You’re not angry; you feel powerless. Here’s what you can do about it. Source: The Truth About Anger

The ROOT CAUSE Of Trauma & Why You FEEL LOST In Life

Dr. Maté generously shares his deep understanding of childhood trauma, vulnerability, grief, and emotional distress. He explains what real trauma is and how time doesn’t necessarily lead to healing, how vulnerability is ingrained in us since we are young and the importance of these formative years to mold our emotional health, and the societal expectations we always try to meet but have never truly given us real fulfillment. We also exchange thoughts on dealing with grief, how we struggle to identify with the people we look up to, and how childhood experience varies for every child even when they are raised in a similar environment.

What ACEs/PCEs do you have?

What ACEs do you have? There are 10 types of childhood trauma measured in the CDC-Kaiser Permanente Adverse Childhood Experiences Study. The number of ACEs and offsetting PCEs play a huge role in your childhood growth and development and could give you insight into addictive behaviors. Go to the source: What ACEs/PCEs do you have?

Gabor Mate explains the significance of childhood trauma here:

The Slap via @charlesmblow

Of all the opinions I’ve heard in the past week, I find this one the most useful in understanding why I was so disturbed by what I saw.

Blow said “I saw an expression of toxic masculinity how men too often… profess to protect the vulnerable with violence when in fact they’re animated by their own fragility”. To this I simply say ‘yes’.

Needless Angers: Can They Be Eliminated?

Anger poisons relationships, yet anger can easily become a too-frequent habit. Learn more here: Needless Angers: Can They Be Eliminated?

5 Ways to Manage Disappointment

Disappointment can lead to a downward spiral. Read this to ‘check yo’self before you wreck yo’self’! Go to the source: 5 Ways to Manage Disappointment

Here’s another post I did on the topic 10 years ago and there’s more reading here

5 Symptoms of Repressed Anger

What repressed anger looks like. Source: 5 Symptoms of Repressed Anger

Anger: Responding, Not Reacting via @tarabrach

Anger is natural and necessary for surviving and flourishing. Yet when we are hooked by anger, it causes personal and collective suffering: Anger: Responding, Not Reacting

Listen in…

Signs of a Healthy Relationship

We need to focus on what we want (not what’s missing!): Signs of a Healthy Relationship

How to have a difficult conversation

Avoidance will only foster more conflict. Aim for a shared understanding with these techniques from an expert mediator: How to have a difficult conversation | Psyche Guides

How Anger Spreads Like a Virus

Research shows how pain and anger infect on social media and in relationships: How Anger Spreads Like a Virus

12 Ways Social Media Affects Relationships, From Research & Experts

The dangers of comparison: 12 Ways Social Media Affects Relationships, From Research & Experts

Love in the Profound Part of the Brain

To love well, balance autonomy and connection: Love in the Profound Part of the Brain

How to Deal with a Badmouthing Ex

The anger that keeps on giving: How to Deal with a Badmouthing Ex

How to Use Anger as a Catalyst for Action

Today’s National Day of Mourning can help us build toward justice for all: How to Use Anger as a Catalyst for Action

@simonsinek on #leadership

When the people have to manage dangers from inside the organization, the organization itself becomes less able to face the dangers from outside. Truly human leadership protects an organization from the internal rivalries that can shatter a culture. When we have to protect ourselves from each other, the whole organization suffers. But when trust and cooperation thrive internally, we pull together and the organization grows stronger as a result.

Sinek, Simon. Leaders Eat Last Deluxe (p. 16). Penguin Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.


Managing disappointment is a key to success in life and love: Disappointment

3 Simple Rules for Criticizing a Difficult Person

These 3 rules for voicing your criticisms are game changers: 3 Simple Rules for Criticizing a Difficult Person

The Power and Shame of Women’s Anger

When women stop apologizing for and start owning their rage, change happens: The Power and Shame of Women’s Anger

The False Prophet of Common Sense

“If you care about understanding something, then you need to study it, either learning from others’ experience or collecting the data yourself that would allow you to test the causal claim of your common sense theory. In the absence of data, we are all free to speculate, but it is worth reminding yourself that your speculation is exactly that; a flimsy common-sense story that is vulnerable to being blown over by a gust of actual evidence. The common-sense stories we tell to make sense of the world may be compelling, but they are not evidence.

This understanding is essential to taking our own common sense with the grain of salt that it deserves. What seems like common sense to us is, to a great extent, driven by intuition. And, as authors like Daniel Kahneman, Max Bazerman, Dan Ariely, Richard Thaler, and Cass Sunstein have written about so articulately, intuitive judgment is beset by biases. It is possible to train your intuition to improve its fidelity, but that requires substantial training, practice, and feedback. It is rare that life provides us with sufficient training, practice, and feedback. Without them, it is dangerous to place too much confidence in your common-sense intuitions.”

Why it’s easy to be overconfident in our intuitions: The False Prophet of Common Sense

Is Anger Addictive? Is it Worse Online?

Research on anger explains why the online world can be so toxic: Is Anger Addictive? Is it Worse Online?

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