I love despair.com and the way they illustrate a point using absurdity and rich sarcasm. Visit their site — always good for an ‘lol’… :-D
Go easy
“Go easy. You may have to push forward, but you don’t have to push so hard. Go in gentleness, go in peace. Do not be in so much of a hurry. At no day, no hour, no time are you required to do more than you can do in peace. Frantic behaviors and urgency are not the foundation for our new way of life. Do not be in too much of a hurry to begin. Begin, but do not force the beginning if it is not time. Beginnings will arrive soon enough. Enjoy and relish middles, the heart of the matter. Do not be in too much of a hurry to finish. You may be almost done, but enjoy the final moments. Give yourself fully to those moments so that you may give and get all there is. Let the pace flow naturally. Move forward. Start. Keep moving forward. Do it gently, though. Do it in peace. Cherish each moment. Today, God, help me focus on a peaceful pace rather than a harried one. I will keep moving forward gently, not frantically. Help me let go of my need to be anxious, upset, and harried. Help me replace it with a need to be at peace and in harmony.”
Beattie, Melody (2009-12-15). The Language of Letting Go (Hazelden Meditation Series) (p. 90). Hazelden. Kindle Edition.
Coping devices
Good stuff from Melody Beattie…
One of the silliest things we do to cope with life is devaluing ourselves when bad things happen to us.
We might have experienced a lot of pain while we were growing up. So as a child we looked around and said, “Yup. This must be my fault. There’s something wrong with me.” Continue reading “Coping devices”
Got excuses?
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Takes only 1 minute to find inspiration for your work-out… – Lead.Learn.Live.
Life…
“Life is made up of marble and mud.” – Nathaniel Hawthorne
Deadlines…
“I love deadlines. I like the whooshing sound they make as they fly by.” – Douglas Adams
I’m a big fan of effective curation for content marketing and ‘thought leadership’. My preferred platform is Windows 7 these days, but many of my clients prefer MacOS. I put together a little riff yesterday outlining how use 3 tools to effectively curate content on the Mac. In this screencast I cover…
Enjoy!
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The top 10 relationship myths and why they’re myths
Susan Whitbourne shares this. I chose to share this one…
4. It’s better to live together before getting married. We can dismiss this myth fairly readily. According to the “cohabitation effect,” couples who live together before getting engaged are more likely to have their marriages end in divorce. The key here is that they live together before they actually get engaged. Once engaged, couples living together prior to marriage do not experience negative effects on their marriage’s duration. The reason for the cohabitation effect makes sense. Couples who decide to marry after living together may do so out of simple inertia. When they moved in together, the people who experience the cohabitation effect didn’t have a particularly strong romantic attraction. Once living together, they may have found it convenient to enter into marriage. Having drifted into that state, they find it just as easy to drift out. They are also more likely to be unhappy during the time that they’re together (Rhoades, Stanley, & Markman, 2009). It’s important to realize that the cohabitation effect doesn’t occur among every couple who find love once they start living together. It’s just that the odds favor people who make a commitment first, and then marry prior to deciding to share their living quarters.
Source: The Top 10 Relationship Myths and Why They’re Myths | Psychology Today
There are 9 more waiting for you at the source if you’re interested…
How have you made it so far…
…without this?
Don’t drink the negative Kool-Aid
Terri Cole posted this recently…
The onslaught of bad news in the media continues to fester. The climate of fear has reached epic proportions. We are inundated with bad news about our crumbling economy, the rising unemployment rate, executive greed, lack of affordable healthcare, etc. So the question is how can YOU stay positive and productive in a relentlessly negative climate and NOT drink the Armageddon Kool-Aid?
Well, as you may have guessed, I have a few ideas. Continue reading “Don’t drink the negative Kool-Aid”
5 ways to eliminate distractions and do your best work
I like Amber Rae’s 5th way…
If you have to, do not be afraid to be unavailable, unreachable, and hard-to-get-ahold-of. Because in a month, you’ll be back and with hellfire momentum, and they’ll forget the weeks where you were MIA because you were focused.
This very moment, you can change your life. There has never been a better moment, and never will be, to take a stand, do what matters, and alter the course of your life.
It’s Go-time. Rock!
Source: 5 Ways to Eliminate Distractions and Do Your Best Work [BLOG] « Positively Positive
Go to the source if you’d like the other 4 – it’s worth the trip!
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- 3 Ways To Stop Multitasking & Stay Focused To Be More Efficient & Productive [Windows] (makeuseof.com)
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Love yourself first and everything else falls into line
From our ‘great philosopher’ series…
Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.
— Lucille Ball
Remove the words “I Can’t” from your vocabulary
“Although the world is full of suffering, it is full also of overcoming it.” Helen Keller
via Remove the Words “I Can’t” From Your Vocabulary | Let Life in Practices.
A seven-step prescription for self-love
Some people see the term ‘self love’ and immediately start to squirm, yet the Good Book says we must ‘love our neighbor as ourselves’ implying that self-love is fundamental in healthy relationship. Author Dr. Deborah Khoshaba shares her perspective here…
Self-love is a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth. Self-love is dynamic; it grows by actions that mature us. When we act in ways that expand self-love in us, we begin to accept much better our weaknesses as well as our strengths, have less need to explain away our short-comings, have compassion for ourselves as human beings struggling to find personal meaning, are more centered in our life purpose and values, and expect living fulfillment through our own efforts.
Here is my Seven-Step Prescription for Self-Love. Continue reading “A seven-step prescription for self-love”
Face the facts: we are all headed for an "iDisorder"
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Who, me?
It should come as no surprise that we are all hopelessly addicted to our devices, particularly our smartphones. Why shouldn’t we be? We are now able to carry a powerful computer around 24/7 in our pocket or purse. The new “WWW” really means “Whatever, Wherever, Whenever.” And we are all succumbing to its draw. Just look at any restaurant table and you will see phones sitting next to forks and knives. It is normal to see someone pick up a smartphone, tap tap tap and put it back down while in the middle of talking. Is this healthy or are we all headed down a slippery slope toward what I call an “iDisorder.”
An iDisorder is where you exhibit signs and symptoms of a psychiatric disorder such as OCD, narcissism, addiction or even ADHD, which are manifested through your use—or overuse—of technology. Whether our use of technology makes us exhibit these signs or simply exacerbates our natural tendencies is an open question, but the fact is we are all acting as though we are potentially diagnosable.
Several recent studies from my lab highlight some of these issues. In one anonymous online survey of more than 1,000 Americans we found that more than half of teenagers and young adults of the iGeneration (born in the 1990s) and the Net Generation (born in the 1980s) told us that they became anxious if they couldn’t check their text messages all day long. And text they do! According to the Nielsen Company the “typical” teen sends and receives 3,417 text messages per month. Teen girls top that with nearly 4,000 per month! If the teens sleep 8 hours a night (which is an hour less than recommended) that’s between 7 and 8 text messages per waking hour.
Source: Face the Facts: We Are All Headed for an “iDisorder” | Psychology Today
Go to the source if you’d like the rest of Dr. Larry Rosen’s perspective…
6 lessons for living fearless and free
Here are a few truths I have learned about transforming fear:
1. Fear Is a Feeling, Not a Fact
This is great news and comes as a surprise to most clients. We change our feelings all the time, so we can change the fear feeling also! Mortal fear is the only informed fear. If your life is in danger, the fight-or-flight response is adaptive and necessary. However, most of the time when your flight-or-fight response is activated, you are not in mortal danger. You can have an initial fear response, recognize you are not in mortal danger, and calm your mind to create clarity.
2. Your Mafia Mind Is a Bully
Your fear mind, or “Mafia Mind” as I call it, operates just like the real mafia. Instead of extorting money, your Mafia Mind extorts joy and potential happiness from your life by threatening you with what might happen. A lot of things might or might not happen, so harness the power of your intention to create what you want to happen.
3. Be Here Now
Present moment awareness is essential to stop fearful thoughts from becoming reality and dictating decisions. Never mind what was and don’t be a fortuneteller. This present moment is unique—there has never been and will never be another. So let go of the, “well this is what will happen because that’s what always happens.”
4. Meditation
A dedicated daily practice of stillness and silence strengthens your “be here now” muscle. Living more in this present moment will decrease fear-generated “future tripping” into what hasn’t happened and “past tripping” into what no longer exists.
5. Exercise Gratitude in Motion
A Johns Hopkins University study indicated volunteering as little as two hours per week increased feelings of happiness and decreased feelings of depression in volunteers. I made volunteering a mandatory experiment for clients struggling with fear and anxiety and found positive results. Fearful obsessing is very isolating. Sharing your gifts with others is the fastest way to get out of your head and into living.
6. Nourish Your Noggin
Seek help from a licensed professional. Years of my own psychotherapy before and after my year of fear created a safe space for my healing.
You have the power to free yourself from the mental prison that fear creates. Anything worth having is worth working for, and you deserve to live fearless and free.
Source: 6 Lessons to Living Fearless and Free [BLOG] « Positively Positive
Go to the source if you’d like to read the rest of her perspective…
Every behavior and every thought has a consequence
“When you choose the behavior, you choose the consequences. When you choose the thoughts, you choose the consequences.” –Dr. Phil McGraw
First, look at the consequences and decide. Is this what I really want?
My dad once told me, “Remember what you know.” Through the years, I have found this to be great advice. So many times we forget simple truths in life, things that we already know. Often, I write about these simple truths to not only remind my readers, but to also remind myself of things that we already know and may have forgotten to practice in our lives.
Today I write about choices.
Every choice that we make is followed by a consequence. Too often, we act impulsively, not taking the time to think through the possible repercussions of our actions. We do not play the tape through, which means that we do not visualize the backlash of our thoughts and behaviors. We simply act without thinking it through in its totality.
Whether our choices are impulsive or well thought out, the consequences will be the same. Take the time to play the tape through. The choices we make when emotions are high, we usually come to regret. Take a moment to think it all the way through.
Source: Every Behavior and Every Thought Has a Consequence | Let Life in Practices
Go to the source if you’d like her list of ‘obvious things we forget’. Click the ‘follow’ button while you’re there!
No pressure, no diamonds!
“No pressure, no diamonds.”
– Mary Case
Bright, shiny objects! 
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