“Whatever you call it — joe, java, mud — it is likely a key way to jump-start your day, and now new research suggests it may not only be good at that — but it may make your life longer.” via Coffee May Be Part of the Recipe for a Longer Life.
Out of the mouths of babes
My 7 year old drew a picture of my wife and me having an argument. Blaa, blaa. Changed my life, it did…
More!
If you really want more, scream it out louder,
Get it on the floor, bring out the fire,
And light it up, take it up higher,
Gotta push it to the limit, give it more.
I only wanna be with you
“Well there’s nothing I can do
I only wanna be with you
You can call me your fool
Only wanna be with you”
So Far Away
“So far away, doesn’t anybody stay in one place anymore?
It would be so fine to see your face at my door
Doesn’t help to know you’re just time away
Long ago I reached for you and there you stood
Holding you again could only do me good
How I wish I could, but you’re so far away”
Afternoon eye candy
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Crazy Love
My ‘crazy love’ is returning!
I can hear her heart beat from a thousand miles
And the heaven opens everytime she smiles
And when I come to her that’s where I belong
Yet I run into her like a river’s song
Chorus:
She give me love, love, love, love, crazy love
She give me love, love, love, love, crazy love
fine sense of humour when I’m feeling low down
And when I come to her when the sun goes down
take away my trouble, take away my grief
Take away my heartache in the night like a theif
Chorus
and I need her in the daytime
and I need her in the night
and I want to throw my arms around her
Kiss and hug her kiss and hug her tight
And when I’m returning from so far away
gives me some sweet lovin’ brightens up my day
Yet it makes me righteous, yes it makes me whole
Yet it makes me mellow down into my soul
:-D
Sparks Fly!
The way you move is like a full on rainstorm
and I’m a house of cards
You’re the kind of reckless that you send me running but I
kind of know that I won’t get far.
And you stood there in front of me just
Close enough to touch
Close enough to hope you couldn’t see
What I was thinking of
Drop everything now
Meet me in the pouring rain
Kiss me on the sidewalk
Take away the pain
’cause I see sparks fly whenever you smile
9 Childhood Rules Best Forgotten by Adults
I recently read a story about how we get pulled into yesterday each time we follow the sage advice of our parents, aunts, uncles and grandparents.
Do you ever find yourself — at 30, 40, or 50 years of age — still carrying through on that advice?
For the longest time into my adulthood I didn’t go outside for fear that I’d “catch my death of cold.” Same with going outside barefoot in the winter.
To this day I still want to throw salt over my right shoulder (or is it my left?) after knocking over the salt shaker because Grandma said it would keep evil spirits away.
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Bright Light Beyond
“Finally a good one! The weather and my schedule have not cooperated with me, lately. It has been weeks since I was able to photograph a nice sunrise.
Normally I’m out early on Saturday and Sunday mornings trying to capture the sunrise. The sun is rising early enough at this time of year that I was able to get out yesterday morning (Tuesday) before having to get ready for work.
This, of course, is the sun rising over Lake Michigan, beyond the lighthouse at Kewaunee, WI. Taken about 5:40 am.” via Bright Light Beyond.
Mary Wells gives Motown Records its first #1 hit with “My Guy”; This Day in History
In 1959, Berry Gordy started his first record label, Tamla Records, running it out of a house he purchased at 2648 West Grand Blvd. in Detroit, Michigan—a location better known as Hitsville, USA. Over the next three years, Tamla made its headquarters live up to its name, turning out a string of hit records that included “Money (That’s What I Want)” by Barrett Strong (1959), “Shop Around,” by The Miracles (1960) and “Please Mr. Postman” by The Marvelettes (1961)–which is why a young aspiring songwriter named Mary Wells was so excited to be offered a recording contract by Berry Gordy in 1962. The catch was that Gordy wanted to make a record with Wells and issue it on a brand new label that had no identity or reputation in the marketplace: Motown Records. Not really in a position to argue, she signed on as the fledgling label’s very first artist, and two years later, Mary Wells gave Motown its first #1 hit when “My Guy” reached the top of the Billboard pop chart on this day in 1964.
Shortly after signing Mary Wells, Berry Gordy transformed her from a songwriter to a performer of other writers’ material. In this capacity, she was one of the first singers in the Motown stable to record a song by the now-legendary Holland/Dozier/Holland songwriting team. That song, “You Lost the Sweetest Boy” (1963), featured the Supremes and the Temptations singing backup to Wells—an indication of where she stood in the Motown hierarchy at the time. It was the songs of Motown Vice President and chief Miracle William “Smokey” Robinson, however, which brought Wells her greatest successes. In 1962, Wells earned her first and Motown’s first top 10 hits with the Robinson-penned “The One Who Really Loves Me,” “You Beat Me To The Punch” and “Two Lovers.” And then in 1964, she earned her first #1 with Robinson’s “My Guy.” via Mary Wells gives Motown Records its first #1 hit with “My Guy” — History.com This Day in History — 5/16/1964.
Fight Fair!
“A constructive complaint looks like this: You calmly ask him not to leave his things flung around the house, not because he’s a big slob (although that may be so) but because neatness is important to you. You “own” the problem (“I’m just not comfortable when you leave your briefcase and coat on the living room couch”) and appreciate that there are other women in the world who would be happy living with someone who didn’t pick up after himself. You mention the attacks you made earlier, at a time of frustration and you apologize for them.
At a relaxed time, you invite a conversation (“Can we make a rule about where briefcases and coats are kept?”) and figure out how to compromise on your different styles. You appreciate that change occurs slowly, in fits and starts, so you praise him for moves in the right direction. After all, you couldn’t transform yourself into a person comfortable with clutter overnight. You might even conclude that it would be simpler to sweep through the house twice a day and dump all his belongings on his big armchair until he decides what to do with them, if anything.
Constructive criticism asks for a specific behavioral adjustment that honors the other person’s capacity to change. It focuses on actions, not character judgments. The “lightly served” part is especially important if you’re talking to someone who responds poorly to anger or intensity in your voice.
People can say very difficult things if they calmly present the facts with no edge in their voice. And silliness helps enormously, as when my son’s wife threatened to charge him rent if he kept putting his clothes on her desk.” via Fight Fair! | Psychology Today.
Ever heard of ‘non violent communication‘? My wife and I have been using it as a tool for over a year. It’s simple, but it’s not easy — it is, however, effective. In NVC, there are 4 components. When I have an issue I talk about:
- What I see
- The story that I tell myself about what I see
- How it makes me feel [mad, sad, glad, hurt]
- What I would like to see instead
How your partner responds is their responsibility but if you use this tactic, you will have expressed yourself in a non-violent, non shaming, non blaming way and you might actually get heard. Oh and btw, I’ve found that it works even better if you keep the decibels down…
“How Masculine or Feminine Are You?”, 1948
Source: Chris Mullen via “How Masculine or Feminine Are You?”, 1948.
Get some giggles…
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Bright, shiny objects! 
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