Author: Todd Lohenry

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Biz Tips From A Pig Who Learned To Fly

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I Am Determined

I Am Determined « Positively Positive.

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Do not believe the road signs

“Do not believe the road signs. There is no ONE… | Simple Reminders.

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Covering the Cosmos

Covering the Cosmos | Pops Digital.

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The complex tale of Todd Lohenry?

Heh, heh, heh… This was produced automatically from my Facebook data. You can produce one of your own at the Amstel Light website…

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Self care

Melody Beattie writes:

“When will we become lovable?  When will we feel safe?  When will we get all the protection, nurturing, and love we so richly deserve?  We will get it when we begin giving it to ourselves.”Beyond Codependency

The idea of giving ourselves what we want and need can be confusing, especially if we have spent many years not knowing that it’s okay to take care of ourselves.  Taking our energy and focus off others and their responsibilities and placing that energy onto ourselves and our responsibilities is a recovery behavior that can be acquired.  We learn it by daily practice.

We begin by relaxing, by breathing deeply, and letting go of our fears enough to feel as peaceful as we can.  Then, we ask ourselves:  What do I need to do to take care of myself today, or for this moment?

What do I need and want to do? What would demonstrate love and self-responsibility?

Am I caught up in the belief that others are responsible for making me happy, responsible for me?  Then the first thing I need to do is correct my belief system.  I am responsible for myself.

Do I feel anxious and concerned about a responsibility I’ve been neglecting?  Then perhaps I need to let go of my fears and tend to that responsibility.

Do I feel overwhelmed, out of control?  Maybe I need to journey back to the first of the Twelve Steps.

Have I been working too hard?  Maybe what I need to do is take some time off and do something fun.

Have I been neglecting my work or daily tasks?  Then maybe what I need to do is get back to my routine.

There is no recipe, no formula, no guidebook for self-care.  We each have a guide, and that guide is within us.  We need to ask the question:  What do I need to do to take living responsible care of myself?  Then, we need to listen to the answer.  Self-care is not that difficult.  The most challenging part is trusting the answer, and having the courage to follow.

Today, I will focus on taking care of myself.  I will trust myself and God to guide me in this process.” via Blog Archives – help and hope ministry.

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We are what we repeatedly do

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via We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.

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And then there were two…

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I invite you to slip off your old, worn out habits….

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If someone’s hurt you, remember…

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Try this quick, easy and joy-boosting practice…

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28 Sexy Pictures Of Older Actors When They Were Young

 

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I’m so goofy…

When the posts on my page line up perfectly like in the picture below, I’m happy. To me, the center column should be the longest and the left and right should be shorter. If it’s not this way, it seems out of balance to me and I feel like I need to post something more. Sometimes it’s good to be obsessive with your blog but this? :-D

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“Imagination is the beginning of creation”

“Imagination is the beginning of creation. You imagine what you desire, you will what you imagine and at last you create what you will.” George Bernard Shaw

via Quote by George Bernard Shaw | Lifehack Quotes.

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Detaching in Relationships

Melody Beattie writes:

When we first become exposed to the concept of detachment, many of us find it objectionable and questionable. We may think that detaching means we don’t care. We may believe that by controlling, worrying, and trying to force things to happen, we’re showing how much we care.

We may believe that controlling, worrying, and forcing will somehow affect the outcome we desire. Controlling, worrying, and forcing don’t work. Even when we’re right, controlling doesn’t work. In some cases, controlling may prevent the outcome we want from happening.

As we practice the principle of detachment with the people in our life, we slowly begin to learn the truth. Detaching, preferably detaching with love, is a relationship behavior that works.

We learn something else too. Detachment – letting go of our need to control people – enhances all our relationships. It opens the door to the best possible outcome. It reduces our frustration level, and frees us and others to live in peace and harmony.

Detachment means we care, about others and ourselves. It frees us to make the best possible decisions. It enables us to set the boundaries we need to set with people. It allows us to have our feelings, to stop reacting and initiate a positive course of action. It encourages others to do the same.

It allows our Higher Power to step in and work.” via Detaching in Relationships – Saturday, August 21 – Adult Children Anonymous.

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Social media & social change

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The best of @toddlohenry for 8/20/2012

  1. “As a lotus flower is born in water, grows in water and rises out of water to stand above it unsoiled, so I, born in the world, raised in the world having overcome the world, live unsoiled by the…
    simple-reminders
    Mon, Aug 20 2012 06:42:37

  2. “Your life is meant to be filled with beauty.” Bryant McGill
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    Mon, Aug 20 2012 06:42:37
  3. If it doesn’t work, if it doesn’t flow, maybe life is trying to tell us something. Life is a gentle teacher. She doesn’t always send neon road signs to guide us. Sometimes, the signs are more subtle. Something not working may be a sign! Let go. If we have become frustrated by repeated efforts that aren’t producing desired results, we may be trying to force ourselves down the wrong path. Sometimes, a differ­ent solution is appropriate. Sometimes, a different path opens up. Often, the answer will emerge more clearly in the quietness of letting go than it will in the urgency, frustra­tion, and desperation of pushing harder. Learn to recognize when something isn’t working or isn’t flowing. Step back and wait for clear guidance.
    August 20: When Things Don’t Work | Language of Letting Go
    Mon, Aug 20 2012 02:34:45

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    Sat, Aug 18 2012 23:54:28

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    Sun, Aug 19 2012 00:14:55
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Women’s Hats, 1913-1915

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3 Tips for Being Unique

I find this post from Robert Chen fascinating:

According to scientists, we’re 99% the same, genetically.

Yes, the same.

Not similar, not close, not related. Exactly the same. And that’s actually a good thing.

Here’s why:

Imagine a world where we were all very different. What would it be like? Well …

Pharmaceutical companies would have to invent a different drug to cure the same disease for every person in the world. No one would read Stepcase Lifehack or any other personal development and productivity blog because useful tips about being successful for one person won’t work for someone else. Research institutes would collapse overnight. What would our children look like?

You get the point.

But take a look around you. What do you see? Do you see how similar we are or do you see our differences?

We’ve been trained and wired to notice the 1% that makes us different and this is the same 1% that separates ordinary people from extraordinary people. Those who showcase their 1% are the ones who become great.

Think of every remarkable person you know. Were they unique or just like the rest of us?

Despite advantages to being similar, professional and personal success does not come from being generic. You have to be yourself.” How? Get the answer here: William Zinsser’s 3 Tips for Being Unique.

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Shroud of Clouds

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