Identify Gottman Four Horsemen in your conflict discussions, eliminate them and replace them with healthy, productive communication patterns: The Gottman Four Horsemen
The Gottman ‘Four Horsemen’ of Relationship Apocalypse
The Sound Relationship House: Build Love Maps
Love Maps help you develop greater personal insight and a more detailed understanding of each other’s life and world: The Sound Relationship House: Build Love Maps
Is It Possible to Change Our Romantic Partner?
Attempting to change your partner and falling flat on your face time and time again? Try doing this the next time and you might be surprised by its results: Is It Possible to Change Our Romantic Partner?
Happy birthday, Hermann Hesse
Or should I say “Alles Gute zum Geburtstag”? Either way you would most likely scoff. You’re always on the list whenever someone asks who are the 3 people you’d like to have dinner with but I’m afraid that somehow you wouldn’t like me because I’m a syncophant or some such thing. In any case, your birthday seems to be a great time to thank the Universe for you and your body of work. I’m sorry I didn’t have the courage to finish my doctorate and dedicate a lifetime to analyzing your work! (btw, you can find every post I’ve ever written about Hesse here.)
How to Stop Overthinking
“What if this happens?” “What if I had done that differently?” These are thoughts that become repetitive and create more distress. Source: How to Stop Overthinking
How to Be Mentally and Emotionally Flexible
Learn how adopting a flexible mindset can reshape your responses to catastrophizing, control, and distorted beliefs, unlocking new possibilities for resilience and well-being. Source: How to Be Mentally and Emotionally Flexible
Making marriage work
Here’s the science behind happy relationships! Dr. Gottman outlines the findings, tools and techniques that have helped thousands of couples from around the world build a “Sound Relationship House.”
I highly recommend relationship content from The Gottman Institute as being very insightful and practical. I also recommend this book for someone looking for a quick overview of their content…
How to Overcome a Relationship Break-Up
The experience of a broken heart and rejection is painful. Your healing comes from going through and flowing with your feelings, not denying them: How to Overcome a Relationship Break-Up
Are We in an Estrangement Epidemic?
With family rifts and loneliness at all-time highs, are we in an estrangement epidemic? Source: Are We in an Estrangement Epidemic?
Steve Jobs on death…
“One sunny afternoon, when he wasn’t feeling well, Jobs sat in the garden behind his house and reflected on death. He talked about his experiences in India almost four decades earlier, his study of Buddhism, and his views on reincarnation and spiritual transcendence. “I’m about fifty-fifty on believing in God,” he said. “For most of my life, I’ve felt that there must be more to our existence than meets the eye.” He admitted that, as he faced death, he might be overestimating the odds out of a desire to believe in an afterlife. “I like to think that something survives after you die,” he said. “It’s strange to think that you accumulate all this experience, and maybe a little wisdom, and it just goes away. So I really want to believe that something survives, that maybe your consciousness endures.” He fell silent for a very long time. “But on the other hand, perhaps it’s like an on-off switch,” he said. “Click! And you’re gone.” Then he paused again and smiled slightly. “Maybe that’s why I never liked to put on-off switches on Apple devices.””
Isaacson, Walter. Steve Jobs (pp. 570-572). Simon & Schuster. Kindle Edition.
Friends Good Will
Friends Good Will is a replica of a top sail merchant sloop that plied the waters of the Great Lakes in the early 19th century. She is the Museum’s flagship and sails from her home port of South Haven daily in the height of summer. Staff and volunteer crew, dressed in period clothes, offer passengers a glimpse into the life and operations of a Great Lakes sailor. Passengers may even have the opportunity to assist the crew as they set off on a traditional tall ship adventure on Lake Michigan.
Friends Good Will offers historical sails, pirate chaser sails, sunset sails, and even acts as a classroom for school groups to learn about early Michigan history and the Great Lakes. Occasionally, she will voyage to other ports for festivals and events. She makes an annual trip to Holland, Michigan during Tulip Time to offer dockside tours above and below decks to visitors: Friends Good Will
Here are some pictures from my ‘birthday cruise’…
Addressing the Epidemic of Loneliness and Social Isolation
Vivek Murthy is informing the public about the problem of loneliness and social isolation and its effects on individual and community well-being, and proposing solutions. Source: Addressing the Epidemic of Loneliness and Social Isolation
Brené with Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman on The Love Prescription
Brené Brown says “we’re back with Part 2 in our three-part series with Drs. John and Julie Gottman, respected, expert clinicians and researchers who’ve been studying couples and relationships for decades. We’re talking about their new book, The Love Prescription: Seven Days to More Intimacy, Connection, and Joy. And I’m telling y’all, this is the real deal. To love somebody and to ask to be loved — to want to be seen and to show your inner self — this is courage and vulnerability. This is bravery. This is love.
Brené, one of the saddest studies I ever read was a study of high-priced call girls who are asked what’s the number one fantasy your male customers want? And the answer turned out to be they want me to pretend that I love them.
Dr. John Gottman
In Part 2 of my conversation with Drs. John and Julie Gottman—authors of the new book The Love Prescription—we dig into the courage, bravery, and vulnerability of love”: Brené with Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman on The Love Prescription, Part 2 of 3
Bonus…
Brené on Strong Backs, Soft Fronts, and Wild Hearts
In this solo episode recorded on Election Day 2020, I talk directly to our wholehearted community about the practice that helps me when I’m feeling fearful, worried, or wobbly, and why this work is the foundation for true belonging: Brené on Strong Backs, Soft Fronts, and Wild Hearts
Rabbit rabbit rabbit
“Rabbit rabbit rabbit” is a superstition found in Britain and North America wherein a person says or repeats the words “rabbit“, “rabbits” and/or “white rabbits” aloud upon waking on the first day of a month, to ensure good luck for the rest of it. The exact origin of the superstition is unknown, though it was recorded in Notes and Queries as being said by children in 1909:[1]
My two daughters are in the habit of saying “Rabbits!” on the first day of each month. The word must be spoken aloud and be the first word said in the month. It brings luck for that month. Other children, I find, use the same formula.
In response to this note another contributor said that his daughter believed that the outcome would be a present, and that the word must be spoken up the chimney to be most effective; another pointed out that the word rabbit was often used in expletives, and suggested that the superstition may be a survival of the ancient belief in swearing as a means of avoiding evil.[2] People continue to express curiosity about the origins of this superstition[3] and draw upon it for inspiration in making calendars[4] suggestive of the Labors of the Months, thus linking the rabbit rabbit superstition to seasonal fertility: Rabbit rabbit rabbit – Wikipedia
The Unseen Perils of Social Media
How technology’s invisible hand shapes our well-being—and what we can do about it. Source: The Unseen Perils of Social Media
12 Common Signs of Abandonment Trauma
Abandonment can leave profound psychological wounds that manifest in various ways throughout a person’s life. Here are 12 of the most common signs. Source: 12 Common Signs of Abandonment Trauma
Why You Should Spend Quality Time With Yourself
The journey of self-discovery is unique to each individual. Embrace the process and allow yourself the time and space to explore your inner world. Source: Why You Should Spend Quality Time With Yourself
The 3 Essential Stages of Love Bombing
Love bombers who exhibit narcissistic tendencies typically have a pattern of behavior that is apparent in these 3 essential stages. Source: The 3 Essential Stages of Love Bombing
Is This Person Capable of Giving You What You Want?
Imagine living with people who respect each other’s boundaries, use positive communication strategies, and understand each other’s limitations and capabilities. Here’s how: Is This Person Capable of Giving You What You Want?
Bright, shiny objects! 
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