The Break-Up: Human Brain Hardwired To Fall Out Of Love And Move On To New Relationships

Falling in love is the easy part, while getting over the breakup is the hard part. The emphasis on monogamy and finding “the one” makes the quest for love an emotional rollercoaster with ups and downs that we may actually be programmed for. According to a recent review published in the journal Review of General Psychology, just like the brain is hardwired to fall in love, it also has a mechanism that helps us fall out of love and move along: The Break-Up: Human Brain Hardwired To Fall Out Of Love And Move On To New Relationships

The Science of Falling Out of Love

"Romantic breakups are an inevitable, if painful, part of living. Along with eliciting a wide range of emotions, including anger, sadness, and shame, a breakup can bring health problems as well. These could include insomnia, reduced immune functioning, depression, and even the temporary heart condition known as "broken heart syndrome." The severity of symptoms often depend on the strength of the relationship and how traumatic the breakup itself was. Source: https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/media-spotlight/201710/the-science-falling-out-love"

The Neuroscience of Falling In Love – Rewire Me

The Neuroscience of Falling In Love

"Love is powerful, scary, amazing – there are so many words to describe it. There’s no denying that all-consuming high you feel when you first fall in love. You feel like you are literally glowing from the inside out.

In fact, the neuroscience behind falling in love is quite fascinating. While many of us associate love with the heart, romantic feelings originate in the brain.

Here are four facts about the love and neuroscience connection that may surprise you:
https://www.rewireme.com/relationships/neuroscience-falling-love/"

How to Fall Out of Love With Somebody

Good advice from an expert: “Love is supposed to be this ultra-great emotion that leads to throbbing feelings of happiness, moments of unforgettable togetherness, and maybe flowers and jewelry, too. Unfortunately, the reality is that love often sucks. You fall in love with people who don’t love you back, you get rejected by your idealized romantic partner, or you find yourself pining for somebody who treats you like crap. But there is hope. Though there is no quick fix for a broken heart, there are things you can do to make it easier to fall out of love with someone. We talked to the experts about the fastest way to turn your love around.” Go to the source: https://io9.gizmodo.com/5983273/how-to-fall-out-of-love-with-somebody

How Hardwired Is Human Behavior?

“New fields of science don’t emerge in a flash, and evolutionary psychology—sometimes called modern Darwinism—is no exception. But over the past several years, evolutionary psychology as a discipline has gathered both momentum and respect. A convergence of research and discoveries in genetics, neuropsychology, and paleobiology, among other sciences, evolutionary psychology holds that although human beings today inhabit a thoroughly modern world of space exploration and virtual realities, they do so with the ingrained mentality of Stone Age hunter-gatherers. Homo sapiens emerged on the Savannah Plain some 200,000 years ago, yet according to evolutionary psychology, people today still seek those traits that made survival possible then: an instinct to fight furiously when threatened, for instance, and a drive to trade information and share secrets. Human beings are, in other words, hardwired. You can take the person out of the Stone Age, evolutionary psychologists contend, but you can’t take the Stone Age out of the person.” Source: https://hbr.org/1998/07/how-hardwired-is-human-behavior

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3 ways to spot a bad statistic

Remember! There are lies, damned lies and statistics according to Mark Twain. The best way to spot a bad statistic is to keep an eye on Trump’s Twitter account and watch this…

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Life Doesn’t Reward You For What You Know, But For What You Do

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This is a lesson hitting me in the face this week thanks to Gary John Bishop and his book Unf*ck Your Life: “Most people have adapted to consuming low-level information on the internet. This is the equivalent of filling your car with water or eating McDonalds every meal.

In the documentary film, Super Size Me, 32-year-old Morgan Spurlock goes 30 consecutive days (from February 1 to March 2, 2003) only eating McDonald’s food. The film documents this lifestyle’s drastic effect on Spurlock’s physical and psychological well-being.

During this 30-day period, Spurlock ate at McDonald’s three times per day, eating every item on the menu at least once. Spurlock consumed an average of 5,000 calories per day during the experiment, more than double the recommended amount for a healthy man his age. As a result, Spurlock gained 24 pounds, a 13% body mass increase, increased his cholesterol to 230 mg/dL (6.0 mmol/L), and experienced mood swings, sexual dysfunction, and fat accumulation in his liver.

One of the components of Spurlock’s experiment was that every time he was asked the question, “Do you want to ‘Super Size’ that?” he was required to say yes. Super-sizing means that the soda and french fries went from large to extra-extra large.

When it comes to the internet, Super-sizing is the equivalent of going from one distractive link to the next to the next to the next to the next. What originally was intended to be a quick check of the email or Facebook has now turned into a subconscious self-sabotage. The body has taken over the mind and is seeking its dopamine refuel, of which it has developed an incredibly high tolerance.

It took Spurlock fourteen months to lose all the weight gained during this 30-day experiment. And he had to eat extremely clean to reclaim his health.

For most people who are caught in the addiction-loop of consuming low-quality information, it will take years to transform their brains into a state where they can truly think clearly and powerfully. It will take years of consistent positive decisions and calculated inputs to develop the thinking and decision-making capacity they are capable of.

Most people will remain stuck on the fast-food diet of internet information consumption — getting fatter and more unhealthy mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. The environment is becoming so dopamine-rich that it is nearly impossible for people to pull themselves from the addiction.

Here’s the truly sad part: most people intuitively know that sitting on the internet all day is bad for their brain, mind, spirit, and body. But knowledge is weak. Knowledge is good for nothing unless it is put into practice. Hence, Napoleon Hill said in Think and Grow Rich, “Knowledge is only potential power. It becomes power only when, and if, it is organized into definite plans of action, and directed to a definite end.” Source: https://medium.com/thrive-global/life-doesnt-reward-you-for-what-you-know-but-for-what-you-do-f05b80e9c710

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Cognitive Biases and the Human Brain

Ben Yagoda writes “I am staring at a photograph of myself that shows me 20 years older than I am now. I have not stepped into the twilight zone. Rather, I am trying to rid myself of some measure of my present bias, which is the tendency people have, when considering a trade-off between two future moments, to more heavily weight the one closer to the present. A great many academic studies have shown this bias—also known as hyperbolic discounting—to be robust and persistent.” Source: https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2018/09/cognitive-bias/565775/?utm_source=pocket&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=pockethits

 

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