“We find comfort among those who agree with us – growth among those who don’t.” Frank Howard Clark. via We find comfort among those who agree with us – growth among….
We find comfort among those who agree with us, but…
How To Be Smart
Dumb Little Man – Tips for Life via How To Be Smart.
The path to happiness
“There is no path to happiness: happiness is the path.” – Buddha
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Sending a child through the post, 1900
“After parcel post service was introduced, at least two children were sent by the service. With stamps attached to their clothing, the children rode with railway and city carriers to their destination. The Postmaster General quickly issued a regulation forbidding the sending of children in the mail after hearing of those examples.”– Smithsonian via Sending a child through the post, 1900.
When you ASSUME you make an ASS out of ME and YOU!
Kute Blackson writes:
Just because you perceive something a certain way, doesn’t mean it is true.
We often think that reality is what we see and experience. We then make judgments about other people, situations or even ourselves based on our perceptions.
But in reality, the reality that you experience is based on your conditioning and past programming. The reality that you think is reality isn’t necessarily reality. As you become aware of this, it frees you up to see more clearly and question how you perceive a situation or person.
When you look at a situation or person, what you really see is what you bring to it. As a result, we make up assumptions and judgments about people which are often not true. Then we react based on our interpretation, which is not always accurate.
Have you ever reacted a certain way to a situation or person, only to realize afterwards that what you thought wasn’t necessarily so? It was simply how you were perceiving it in that moment based on your limited viewpoint.
Perhaps someone did or said something to you which left you feeling hurt. When you react to the situation based on your hurt, it only creates a negative spiral.
To the degree you live inside of your assumptions about what is going on, is to the degree you are not free and limit yourself.
The more you can step back, question your first reaction to a given situation and embrace what you feel, the more space you can have to actually choose a response that is empowering rather than reactive. Living from reactivity only creates more reactivity in a situation.
When you are in a relationship with a loved one and they do or say something that triggers something within you, we often think that our upset is about the other person. As a result we might react negatively, or even attack the other person out of hurt. We might make up a story about what they said or did, and what that means. In truth you may have no idea what was really going on with the other person or situation as a whole.
So we are all seeing through our individual lens/viewpoint and experiencing reality in unique ways. The challenge is when these realities do not agree, it often results in arguments we both think we are right.
Have you ever experienced this?
On some level you are both right. Everybody is right, based on the viewpoint your are looking through. It doesn’t mean it is reality though. When you realize this, you do not need to take the other person’s reaction to you personally; you realize that, based on their particular viewpoint which they think to be reality, they cannot help but react to you the way they are. It just frees you up to not keep fighting them, and be able to take a step back so that you can really choose your response.
The meaning you give to things controls your entire life. What’s the meaning you are giving to the experiences that happen to you?
Beware of:
Mind reading: When you project onto another other person what you think they are thinking and why they did what they did.
Living in fantasy: When you have an entire relationship with a person not based on reality, but what you have made up in your mind.
Preconceived ideas: This is where you have already made up in your mind who and what someone is and how that person will respond ahead of time. You then already feel reactive, even though nothing has happened yet.
The more you free yourself of your conditioning, the more clearly you are able to see reality clearly and really choose.
Before you judge someone or the situation.
Breathe. And take a step back.
Take a look at the situation from a more expanded viewpoint. Be willing to not know.
Question: Is this reality?
Choose authentically.
So, how much Freedom do you want to experience in your life?
You choose.
Source: When you ASSUME you make an ASS out of ME and YOU! (Give it UP!)
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Treat People How They Want to Be Treated
“If we are to live together in peace, we must come to know each other better.” ~Lyndon Johnson.
A while back, I told a friend that I try to follow the old adage “Treat people how you wanted to be treated.” He responded that he tries to treat people how they want to be treated. This really got me thinking.
I’ve always tried to gauge people’s needs by relating to them—by seeing myself in them, and giving them what I would want if I were in their shoes.
It never occurred to me consider how I differ from them, and how their wants may differ, as well.
This friend of mine, he values connection and support, just like everyone else, but he’s not someone who likes to talk about his problems at length. In fact, he prefers to get things off his chest and then move on, instead of dwelling on things that bother him.
A mutual friend of ours enjoys dissecting a problem from every angle. If he treated her how he likes to be treated, he may try to help let go and move on quickly, as that’s how he does things.
But he doesn’t treat her that way. Instead, he simply listens until she’s done talking, because he understands that she appreciates that.
He understands that what works for him isn’t necessarily what works for everyone; and that there is no right or wrong when it comes to the support we want from other people.
What a beautiful way to be there for someone—to try to ascertain what they value in a friendship, and then provide it, without question or judgment.” Get more here: Tiny Wisdom: Treat People How They Want to Be Treated | Tiny Buddha.
Why You Have 43 Choices More That Matter in Life (or Not)
“Life is the sum of all your choices.” ~Albert Camus.
Ever wondered what might have been?
Ever thought about where and who you’d be if only you’d done something differently, gone somewhere else, chosen something or someone else?
Probably so, if you’re like most.
But have you ever imagined where you might go and what you might still become, with the choices you yet have left?
My friends and I were hanging out not too long ago, before I moved away from them (totally escaping their awesome grasp) to start a new life of sorts in this surface-of-sun-like heat of Austin. (I’m not used to it yet, possibly because I’m convinced one of these days I’ll walk outside and spontaneously combust.)
Anyway, we were doing what we often do—making fun of the university we went to, when someone asked where else I could have gone. What other schools could I have chosen instead?
The question pretty much weirded me out right away.” Get more here: Why You Have 43 Choices More That Matter in Life (or Not) | Tiny Buddha.
Expectations
“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.” Bruce Lee. via Anderson Layman’s Blog via Expect………………...
(Today) Be soft…
A good reminder from David Kanigan. Lead.Learn.Live. via (Today) Be soft….
The place to Bee
Pops Digital via Popular Spot.
Why you and Calvin may have had a tough day…
Heh, heh, heh. Lead.Learn.Live. via Why you and Calvin may have had a tough day….
Nancy Reagan on Mr. T’s Lap, 1983
Retronaut. Get more here: Nancy Reagan on Mr. T’s Lap, 1983.
The Stillness Effect
Did I lock the house? Cappuccino or green tea latte? Should I call my mom now or later? What shall I eat for dinner? Did I feed the cat? Do I look fat? I have a headache. And so your thoughts go on.
Did you know the average person has between 50,000-60,000 thoughts a day?
That’s a heck of a lot of thinking!
Being pushed and pulled by the elements whilst immersed in the constant ebb and flow of life can really take its toll on your mind and body.
Retreating
How does the idea of retreating into yourself everyday sound? Transcending the surface (where you are bobbing around) and sinking deep down into a place of peace, love, stillness and light.
Meet Tom Cronin…..
Sixteen years ago Tom hit a mental wall. Unable to continue in the rat race of the corporate world, Tom fell into chronic depression and what he terms “the darkest of days” as he became housebound by his own limitations.
After many months of becoming more disconnected to the world and his being, Tom decided to find a way to lift his depression and balance the overstimulation that life had thrown to him. And find he did. The “Science of Stillness” was born.
Focusing on Your Core
Tom came to Malaysia with his business partner Nick, and gave a special presentation on “The Stillness Effect” which we would like to share with you.
The video highlights stimulants in our life that cause our mind and body to fall out of sync, and introduces the effects of stillness on this imbalance.
Give yourself 25 minutes to find out how a little bit of stillness can go a long way for you.
To find out more about Tom, Nick and how you can benefit from the Stillness Effect check out the Science of Stillness.” via Talks@Mindvalley – The Stillness Effect.
Nice guys are the sexiest
notsalmon via Nice guys are the sexiest.
The glow of one warm thought is to me worth more than money
Of course, Jefferson had a lot of money. Warm thoughts that generate money make me glow! BrainyQuote via The glow of one warm thought is to me worth more than money. -….
Bright, shiny objects! 
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