Not flesh and blood

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“It is not flesh and blood, but heart which makes us fathers and sons.” ⠀ Friedrich von Schiller⠀ ⠀ My father was adopted. I was adopted by him. I in turn adopted my first born son. Perhaps that is a unique situation, although it's a big world and there may be others who can tell the same story.⠀ ⠀ When I was in college studying German, I came across the quote above and I hand wrote it in calligraphy and decoupaged it as a gift for Fathers' Day (that's what we used to do before we could create memes). In a sea of quotes I have collected and shared it remains amongs my most cherished…⠀ ⠀ Why the image of a surfer with a child on his shoulders? Well, in some ways my dad was a moron. All dads are. We know this but don't remind us. We have some pride. When I was five, my dad used to ride down a hill on a skateboard with me on his shoulders. Today, I would have been taken away by the DCFS but in those days, I guess it was ok!⠀ ⠀ This same dad also read me Dr. Seuss and T. S. Elliott's Practical Book of Cats long before it was a musical and ultimately almost everything I cherish about myself I can trace back to him.⠀ ⠀ So, you can sit there and judge your father and say he was a fuckup, but unless he was pure evil — and you wouldn't be here if he was — I'll double-damned guarantee you he gave up a huge chunk of his dreams to have you and he did the very best he was capable of doing so lighten up and thank god. It could have been worse and maybe, just maybe, you are better because of him…

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